Dear Friends,

You know that SpongeBob meme where all the little SpongeBobs are running around in his brain trying to figure out what his name is? And they're frantically searching all the file cabinets for his name? That's what social anxiety can be and feel like. For some, social anxiety feels like the elephant in the room. It can be hard to push past the lump in your throat or the chaos in your brain to take practical steps to work through it as best as you can.

The Rollercoaster of Anxiety

The roller coaster of anxiety typically leads to depression—the spiraling, the crash—it may be a sudden onset or a consistent baseline for you. Whenever the terrible two arrive, they can manifest in different ways and require responses that best fit the trigger. Because they can’t be seen and aren’t expressed the same way across the board, some people may not believe you struggle with anxiety and depression, especially if you’ve established strong coping skills. This is the stigma that comes with invisible illnesses.

Invisible illnesses open the door to an array of perceptions, shaping what others think you are or aren’t capable of. For example, people close to you may think you can handle way more than you can, that you have it all together, or that you know all the answers because your anxiety takes over to plan for the worst. Depending on how anxiety presents or is masked, this may lead others to assume you don’t need help if they don’t take the time to get to know more about invisible illnesses.

As anxiety can come in handy for resolving others’ conflicts, it can go unnoticed that you, too, need support. If you’re also an introvert, it's not unusual that others will take anxiety or social anxiety personally. They may assume you don't want to talk to them because you think you’re better than them. When internally, the truth is that your mind is hyperactive, busy spiraling, catastrophizing, overanalyzing, and self-criticizing. It can be exhausting to explain to those who don’t believe mental health struggles are real, much less visualize or contextualize them, that what you experience is social anxiety. Oftentimes, social anxiety stems from being judged early in life, which leads to fear of saying the “wrong” thing and feeling immense shame, judgment, or embarrassment as a result. “Wrong” could be as simple as saying something that could be misunderstood, unintentionally hurtful, or perceived as unintelligent. Simply put, social anxiety is a trauma response.

Words of Encouragement

For anyone dealing with the rollercoaster of anxiety, social anxiety, and depression, just know that, however it shows up for you, your experience is valid. If you are part of a community or family system, family structure, or even a work environment that doesn't get it, know that you deserve genuine support. You are so strong and brave for being your own advocate in these types of environments. Continue showing up for yourself, doing the work, and loving yourself through it. Consult with professionals and build a strong support system so you receive the support you deserve. As you do that, here are some tips for working through anxiety and social anxiety at a reasonable pace:

1. Find Your Motivation

Social anxiety can present some major blockages to your growth. You may feel like you’re stuck or burdened with a lifelong challenge. Before you start pushing yourself out of your comfort zone, it’s important to identify your motivation for doing so. Ask yourself:

• Do you want to be more open in conversation with others?

• Do you feel like social anxiety has become a crutch?

• Do you want to stop feeling powerless or fearful?

• Do you want to make friends?

• Do you want to relate to others more?

• Do you want to form healthy relationships?

• Do you want to have more engaging experiences?

• Do you want to build a strong support system?

If you don’t challenge yourself, social anxiety can take over your life in subtle ways. You could find yourself living in regret and isolation, which can feel debilitating and dysfunctional. It’s not something you, “get over,” after all because it’s an invisible illness, and it doesn’t work that way. You can’t just wake up one day and say, “I have no anxiety, no depression, no social anxiety.” However, figuring out why you want to connect with others and find resources to lead an empowering, functional life doesn't hurt.

2. Know Your Options

Social anxiety can be triggered in a number of ways, so you may find that meeting with professionals results in various homework assignments, such as going on a coffee date with someone you want to be friends with. You may explore different options like medication, light therapy, and lavender supplements. Or, you may find ways to practice having light-hearted conversations in a way that makes sense to you—almost like exposure therapy. Knowing your options can make working through social anxiety more like exercising a muscle. Once you know what tools are available, you can lean on your strengths to confidently build that muscle and flex it more.

Whatever you choose to do, make sure it feels realistic, manageable, and not at all overwhelming. Just like you can’t wake up one day and “get over” social anxiety, it won’t be healed or become less taxing overnight either. Take your time. Work through it slowly, but steadily.

3. Do Practice Runs

Start out by creating scripts for yourself or brainstorming go-to phrases and questions, adapting them to the situations you find yourself in. For example, if you want to start livestreaming, script out your content and practice with private livestreams so you get comfortable with the idea of being on camera and speaking directly to an audience. As you gain confidence, you can shift from scripting to jotting down bullet points and speaking more off-the-cuff without being hyper-fixated on what you might say next or worrying about stumbling over your words. If you work in communications, marketing, or writing and struggle with social anxiety, do private practice sessions of pitches, presentations, and workshops first. There’s no guarantee your brain won’t freak out when you’re actually in presenter mode, but at least you have some sort of “muscle memory” to rely on in the moment.

4. Start Small

As you work your way up the ladder, challenge yourself to say one thing to someone new. It can be so debilitating just to think about saying “hi” to somebody as a chronic worrier. You might bury yourself in your phone or not want to speak to anyone because the symptoms that come with social anxiety are real: sweaty palms, racing heart, lump in your throat, sometimes watery eyes, or even pressure in your shoulders or chest. A lot can be happening physically, so it can help to break down the big, scary giant that is social anxiety into digestible action steps. For example, if you get a coffee every morning at your local coffee shop, challenge yourself to complement the quick bites they offer or ask the barista about their favorite menu item.

Even something light, like asking someone how their day is going, can be helpful to get out of your head. Once you get through that initial hurdle, you can move on to challenging yourself to carry the conversation.

5. Flow with the Conversation

People love talking about themselves, so asking questions about the other person can relieve some of those physical panic symptoms as the other person takes center stage. As someone who has used this to spark conversation, it’s a hack that actually works! This is where you’ll want to build on the previous tip of starting small. Once you feel comfortable doing more, challenge yourself to keep the conversation going by asking questions or finding commonalities to relate to the other person. Don’t let the conversation trail off or die, essentially.

Flowing with the conversation is an exercise of self-trust; in the end, you’ll be able to trust that you can navigate interactions and ask questions while remaining engaged and emotionally regulated. Being curious, open, and authentic during conversation can help you cope with social anxiety long enough to experience rewarding breakthroughs.

6. Dare to Be Seen

Social anxiety can also come with the fear of being seen, so you’ll want to (gently) throw yourself into situations that force you to confront your social fears. For example, try taking on gigs that require you to talk to multiple people every day, embody more leadership responsibility, or be the only subject matter expert. This is especially important if you prefer support roles where you can be more behind-the-scenes and not too forward-facing. Seek opportunities to break out of that comfort zone and any imposter syndrome that may accompany your fears. Doing so builds confidence and adds to your overall “muscle memory.” You’ll either master whatever you throw yourself into, be able to point people in the right direction, or secure a new talking point for future conversations.

7. Get Outside

If you are more introverted, you may have to force yourself to be more extroverted to survive in this big, capitalist world. You may prefer a comfy night in over exploring the town with friends, and it may be too anxiety-inducing to go out on your own. However, solo adventures have a lot to offer, especially if you treat them like self-care dates.

For example, make plans to test out that new restaurant in your neighborhood by yourself. When you do, you may notice that going out on your own forces you to confidently introduce yourself, speak up for yourself, and be more assertive when needed. It presents chances to mingle and practice what you’ve been learning (or unlearning) without having a “safe” person to buffer or speak for you. Where you may have been forced to flex as an introverted extrovert, it'll become more authentic without that forced speaking voice—you know, the one we all have when ordering through a drive-through. You can start dropping your mask, even if certain things are unexpected or can feel a little challenging. You’ll also get more comfortable being in public spaces to continue working through social anxiety.

8. Make Your Hobbies Social

Put your social skills to the text by trying them out in spaces you already like or feel comfortable with like museums, art shows, zoos, or painting classes. If finances are tight, take advantage of free virtual and in-person events in your area. Although another baby step, this will help you break down the walls you might’ve built up in your mind around socializing and being a “social” person. Because you’ll be socializing in settings that interest you, you can feel more at ease speaking without the intimidation of being in an unfamiliar environment. You’ll feel safe enough to go with the flow and connect with others in the moment. You can even invite your friends to join you as you become more confident, adding another element to flexing your social “muscle memory.”

9. Keep Exercising Your Social Muscles

Don’t stop at the first eight tips. Continue learning how to expand your social toolkit. Shed those unkind, critical thoughts of:

• "I don’t want to mess this up."

• "I want everything to be perfect."

• “Where do I fit in this conversation?"

• "What’s a good time for me to interject?"

When in doubt, practice deep breathing to break these thought patterns. Sometimes, it helps to tell the other person you experience anxiety and ask them to be patient with you. People respect that kind of honesty, and they even might be able to relate to you or share the same vulnerability. As long as you keep throwing yourself into situations that force you to confront the blockages you may experience, you’ll be able to form stronger relationships.

10. Say Affirmations

Working through social anxiety is rewarding, even though it’s not for the faint of heart. If you struggle with it, affirmations can round out your toolkit in addition to establishing a good care team. When it feels appropriate to do so, dig deeper to understand the root cause of the social fears you experience. Affirm that you’re working through, conquering, and releasing them. If you feel panicky as you’re connecting, breathe and validate yourself. Say affirmations like:

• I am receptive in social spaces

• I remain flexible in social settings

• I am honest and trusting when connecting with others

• I release negative thought patterns

• I release unhealthy ways of communicating

• I express myself in healthy, self-assuring ways

Ask the universe to remove the blocks or barriers to socializing with others so you can enjoy life to the fullest. Work through these blockages consciously and responsibly while saving and holding space for yourself. You’ll feel raw, exposed, and question yourself at times. When that happens, lean into your muscle memory, affirmations, and your inner circle. It won’t be easy to buck the narratives in your mind about socializing or letting others in, but getting to the other side of taking your power back and feeling fulfilled is worth it.

If you don’t know where to start, here are some affirmations to try:

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As you continue to work through social anxiety, know that you’ll find your people. You’ll find your voice, support system, and the process that works best for you. So, don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself or tear down walls to have fulfilling breakthroughs. Years later, you’ll be so proud of yourself and amazed by your courage when you see how far you’ve come. You might still have moments where you feel like that SpongeBob anxiety meme creeps in, but it won’t be as often, and you’ll know exactly what to do.

Don’t be afraid to get social,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers

Dear Friends,

Finding supportive friends at any age is hard to come by. Friendships are like long-lost treasures and may be the only sense of home or source of unconditional support for some. Especially for disenfranchised folks, sometimes friends are our chosen family. It can be challenging for people with different perspectives and walks of life to truly understand how bias and social constructs can alter the foundation of a friendship. Couple that with people’s past traumas, inherited toxic traits, or bad habits they picked up along the way into adulthood—for some of us, there comes a time when re-evaluating friendships is a must. If you’re feeling like the odd one out, here are some warning signs you might be outgrowing your squad or in need of minimizing your presence in the group chat:

When You’re Tokenized

With the world's makeup becoming more diverse, it’s not all that unpopular for some people to be hyper-focused on optics regarding their friend groups. Some people may view closeness with marginalized folks as proof in the pudding that they aren’t biased or prejudiced. They may think being around other cultural groups will boost their social capital by virtue signaling or gaining access to experiences and figures they wouldn’t have otherwise come across. They are excited to introduce you to their core group, speaking for and over you during the introductions. They’re almost all too excited to exploit your cultural trauma to seem like a great person for being there for you, parade you around to seem “open-minded” and “educated” on social issues, or mimic your accent to appear more relatable. They may declare to be an ally; however, when things get real, they either fail or don’t know how to show up as one at all.

People who behave this way see otherized people as pawns and props, not as humans; it’s about what you can do for them and how their closeness to you can improve their social perception. By reducing you down to a story of adversity or stereotype, they essentially strip you of your humanity. Their actions say they aren’t concerned with what you need out of life, a friendship, or how uncomfortable they make you feel; your exchanges are purely transactional to them. Their behavior signals how much they minimize your existence and experiences, limiting your fullness, significance, and expression. These are the people to run—not walk—away from as soon as you see the warning signs because odds are, they’ll have very little regard for your boundaries and emotions.

When Your Needs or Concerns Don’t Matter

Some people are emotionally attuned to their friends and, at the very least, can validate their friends’ feelings or experiences. These folks are likely open to personal growth and value emotional safety and security in relationships. Unfortunately, some people haven’t experienced or seen this behavior modeled before and don’t know how to exhibit emotional intelligence. You may find that they frequently belittle and bulldoze over your boundaries as if they’re optional. Or, they may say you’re overreacting about something that’s happened and are “making a big deal” when you point out how you’ve been mistreated in some way. This may especially happen when you point out how you face discrepancies due to being otherized; suddenly, the conversation becomes an oppression Olympics, and nothing you’ve been through could ever be that bad compared to what they (or others) have been through. Because they have never walked the world in your body, you may find that they dismiss your concerns if they’re related to possible misconduct or injustice resulting from activities they deem harmless.

People who behave like this lack empathy and awareness. Your friend(s) may be quick to invalidate your pain, blame you for what you’re experiencing, and use the phrase “you’re too sensitive” as a band-aid or a means to escape accountability for what they’ve said or done. These kinds of toxic friends are emotionally immature, unsympathetic, self-focused, and relate to the world only through their own lens. They don’t know how to put themselves in other people’s shoes and expect everyone around them to adopt their beliefs or viewpoints on life. They may even try to dictate how you should respond to issues, but shame your approach if and when you share it with them. They are incredibly unaware of how social structures may limit your ability to overcome obstacles or even have the space to be vulnerable enough to process those obstacles. You may want to try distancing yourself from these so-called friends, as their harshness and hollowness will cause you to doubt yourself, your reality, and what you ask for from a platonic relationship. If your friend(s) haven’t learned how to simply listen without judgment or extend the slightest bit of sympathy to others by their twenties, there’s a slim chance that will change without significant life challenges that encourage their self-reflection and self-work.

When Your Support Isn’t Reciprocated

A continual theme in life and partnership, friendships also ebb and flow. There will be moments when you need more support at a certain point, and vice versa for the other party. No one should be tracking or counting when these trade-offs happen; however, friendship should be a reciprocal relationship. Friends who flake, are full of excuses, or can’t make the effort to support you as best they can may not see you as an equal. They may be used to you being the one who is reliable, responsible, answers every call, or shows up for them. They may be used to you being the giver or even an over-giver in the connection, but they don’t know how to give others what they’re used to receiving. These “friends” are draining, also known as energy vampires, whether they are intentionally or unconsciously siphoning your energy.

People who behave like this take others for granted. Your friendship may be one-sided, where your bestie(s) frequently trauma dump with the expectation that you’ll always be free to support them through their issues and offer endless emotional labor; however, when the roles are reversed, their lack of interest in you and your well-being is glaringly apparent. They may exhibit annoyance or shoot off short quips when you start opening up to them, and they may even try changing the subject when you attempt to. These types of people may also be alright with sharing what’s going on in their lives, but they are uncomfortable with others doing the same. If this pattern continues after speaking to them about it, you may have to dissolve the friendship slowly. They may be aloof, emotionally unavailable, or a little bit of both. Either way, you don’t have to settle for unrequited relationships of any kind.

When Your Friends Can’t Be Happy for You

Sharing milestones with loved ones is how we create some of our fondest memories, and you never forget those who leap at the chance to celebrate your success. Some of those in your inner circle may be there to support you for all your “down bad” days, but you may find the same enthusiasm isn’t applied when you’re gushing about your new promotion, personal health goal, romance, financial accomplishment, or travel plans. Your friendship may all be good when your friend’s life is on the up and up. In these times, you encourage and congratulate them, no questions asked. However, they seem to find something wrong with anything and everything when life’s going well for you. They may frequently refer to happenings as too good to be true, point out flaws, speak down on your opportunities, and diminish accomplishments; they might even mention your past struggles to highlight your fears and insecurities.

People who behave like this are in a constant state of comparison and competition. These sorts of people are threatened by others expanding their lives beyond them, as well as what they’ve been able to achieve. They may seek the same “moment,” or you find them trying to “one-up” yours. This is because they may secretly think they’re more deserving of the happiness you’re experiencing—yes, as in they think they deserve it more than you do. Or, it could be that your buddies may have difficulty facing their shortcomings, stagnation, and where they find themselves in life. Whichever way the cookie crumbles, rid these people from your circle immediately. Their child-like envy will slowly become a cancer in your relationship, poisoning your mind against the goodness occurring in your life and hindering your ability to bask in joy or share your wins.

It’s not often that people talk about how anxiety-provoking it can be to make friends or lose friends as an adult. If you’ve been conditioned as a childhood survivor of trauma, disenfranchised identity, or an oppressed/ethnic group, sometimes you can find yourself surrounded by friends who are eerily similar to people who liked to make you feel small or worthless early on in life. If you miss the warning signs, you might find yourself repeating relational patterns that once kept you safe as a child.

Like any other type of relationship, friendships should be built on reciprocity, respect, and trust. All parties should have equal space and opportunity to evolve and lean on the other in times of need. There shouldn’t be conditions; all parties should be able to freely share joys, pitfalls, and concerns without fear of weaponization. Competition should be non-existent; all parties should make a reasonable effort to understand each other’s feelings, needs, and hardships. Differences in thought, perspective, and problem-solving should be explored; at no point should any party feel less than, manipulated, indebted to, or dependent on the other. All parties should be free to discover their whole selves within and outside the parameters of the friendship with a healthy sense of attachment and detachment. Otherwise—if no one’s told you yet—any friendship that’s not mutual or rooted in true allyship isn’t a friendship worth having, saving, or settling for at all.

Don’t let anyone play in your face,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers

Dear Friends,

Is the creator economy that much better than Corporate America? With skyrocketing grocery prices and the rise of TikTok, more and more people are looking to find their passion and make it their full-time gig. However, creators of color should be forewarned because all that glitters isn’t gold. Where you can be your own boss and fulfill all of your creative desires, you may still face similar office-politics obstacles in the digital creator space. Here are three things to keep in mind when you want to throw in the towel:

Your Presence Matters

One thing I learned during my restorative time offline was how much one person of color can create a ripple effect in the industry. On days when you feel like giving up, be reminded that you are making an impact by showing up. Your presence matters, and your voice matters. You have a special way of relating to and connecting with people. Your perspective, your essence, your style of connecting—it all matters. Your energy resonates with folks and is making an impact, even if you don’t see it.

Sometimes, delayed gratification and racialized hate comments can eat away at you. Then, there’s witnessing others prosper from aspects of your culture or vernacular while algorithms block you from doing or saying the same things. Let’s also not forget how you may be treated differently from your peers, especially in group settings. It may feel like you’re showing up daily with nothing to show for your progress. Despite all the work you’re putting in, it can feel like the universe is trying to tell you to hang it up. It can be hard to assess the healthiest response in these moments. You may want to take a step back to protect your peace or push through the ugly truth that biases are shaping your experience. Maybe you’re burning the candle at both ends, and you could give a little less to preserve your mental health. With some people wanting to limit the social progress of melanated folks, do what feels best to reset and uphold the mindset that your absence won’t be for the long term.

You Are Building Beautiful Communities

Remember that the community you're building reflects you when you’re looking for reasons to keep showing up. Your community shows up to support you, other folks in your audience, and the shared causes your community cares about. The value of your essence extends beyond you, whether you are one of the only creators who look like your audience or one of many.

Even if talent management agencies aren’t approaching you, you’re inspiring others just by showing up in your space. Representation is powerful, and your consistent presence might be carving out a path for other BIPOC creatives or those in your community. So, if you feel like a small fish in a gigantic pond, remember you were called to your lane for a reason. Maybe there wasn’t someone who looked like you doing what you do. Perhaps you offer a much more unique perspective or expertise that others find incredibly relatable and helpful. No matter what kind of art or content you make, that kind of impact and engagement is priceless. So, never let industry folk sell you or your community short.

You Are Worthy of It All

Rest, recognition, support, equal pay… You are worthy of it all. Most of us melanated folk struggle with imposter syndrome as we exist in a world that tries to convince us every day that we don’t belong and aren’t enough; that is the greatest lie ever told.

You are capable, competent, and absolutely worthy of asking for more. Defining what “more” means to you and committing to your standards may be beneficial. Brands may try to convince you to settle and backtrack on your rates. Stay strong, don’t waver, and don’t settle for crumbs. Like corporate America, social media brands are banking on the fact that people of color will be happy with being allowed in their space or acknowledged as talent. Some of them may try to pay you in “exposure,” but remind them that your bills and livelihood as a human matter just as much as theirs and the next creator. You may have to vet managers or train those you trust to be in positions to advocate for and protect you. Those around you should be vying for you to receive the same opportunities as your peers with similar agreements. Your team should help make your journey more freeing, equitable, and accessible… Not one hyper-fixated on numbers, greed, or sacrificing your integrity to make a deal or promotion work. You deserve a team that serves as your rock and backbone because you are worthy of unconditional support. You are worthy of the same love and support you give.

Take care of yourself every step of the way, no matter how you chase creative freedom. Putting yourself out there as a marginalized identity isn’t for the faint of heart. Burnout, exhaustion, and comparison are all very real and tend to hit hard. If you’re experiencing a block or looking for reasons to stay in the game, remember you are magic. You deserve a career that fulfills you. You deserve to be surrounded by good people, things, and experiences. You deserve to take breaks when the days get overwhelming, and your artistry and humanity should always be respected; never compromised.

Happy creating,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers

Dear Friends,

How do you navigate toxic work environments? In 2017, I was hazed at a new job and had a traumatic first-time experience with Human Resources. Finally, leaving that job a couple of years later felt so empowering. However, it showed me that America’s workplaces have a real problem with power, bias, and accountability.

A few years later, I joined a team that prided itself on ethics and inclusivity. Unfortunately, I realized as the only black womxn on the team that those were just pretty words with no action or intention behind them. After my supervisor posted something racist and I gave the company feedback they requested about the situation, I found myself without a job just in time for the holidays. It was a gut punch I wasn’t prepared for, and it was the final straw that got me to leave corporate America altogether.

Even in work environments that may be predominantly minorities, I’ve still had my fair share of emotionally and culturally insensitive coworkers, egomaniacs for bosses, and toxic workplace cultures that leave me wanting to quit all traditional labor alternatives to become a full-time, serial entrepreneur. The rise of conversations about workers’ rights, strikes, and toxic workplace lawsuits begs the question: How can marginalized identities survive these environments? How can we navigate them while keeping our peace intact and at the top of our minds?

1. Uphold Your Own Boundaries

One thing that’s important to remember: You’re a person first, not a work mule. Although it’s very tempting, don’t do unnecessary emotional labor or education. People of color, especially Black people, have been conditioned for centuries to understand, anticipate, and serve the needs of everyone around us. This leads to us abandoning our own needs, overworking with limited opportunities for advancement, and being severely underpaid. Society also has a knack for normalizing the magical negro trope whenever possible, but people of color are not adult babysitters or emotional support dogs. It’s exhausting to consistently think steps ahead, navigating and assessing your safety in various settings while coaching socially inept people. So protect your peace now, and make a commitment to yourself that you’ll stick to your scope of work only. Doing favors and putting in extra time can quickly become taken for granted.

Limit code-switching as much as you can as well, and don’t apologize for being your authentic self. It may be like second nature to make everyone else around you comfortable with your presence, but challenge yourself to refrain from shrinking yourself. Break free from the boxes and mental categories people tend to put you in. Buck the norm of what a “fill-in-the-blank” person is supposed to look, sound, act, and perform like. This can start unraveling the threads of the status quo at your workplace and highlight how exploitation, intolerance, and power imbalances show up.

As you uphold these social boundaries, understand your rights. For example, others’ curiosity about curly locks leads some people to put their hands in other folks’ hair. If you didn’t consent, that is assault and unwanted touching. Yes, I’m a firm believer in using appropriate words for people to understand the severity of their actions. No matter how playful the dig or offense, you have the right to seek recompense for offenses. It may be helpful to brush up on policies regarding conflict and conflict resolution at your organization. Some workplaces require arbitration, so you’ll want to know what your options and obligations are if you feel actions have escalated to the point of making a report.

2. Don’t Count on DEI and Solidarity

Understanding the lingo is crucial. DEI has slowly transitioned over the years to mean a workplace inclusive of women, specifically white women. Although we’ve made some strides as a society, people of color still have to jump through hoops to get through the door. You may notice that you’re asked to prove your expertise with more reference checks and work samples than others. Then, coworkers and authority figures may question and undermine your experience when you’re acting as a subject matter expert in the position. You may not know how to describe this initially, but know that this is rooted in bias and white supremacy. It means your workplace still has a lot of ways to go to truly practice inclusivity and respect other identities in authority positions, especially those who have more knowledge than what some are comfortable with.

Certain work environments have their own lingo as well. For example, a workplace that describes itself as “scrappy” means you will more than likely have little support in making unrealistic expectations happen on strict timelines and with little input, no matter how much the organization claims to be team-driven and values your voice. With marginalized folks typically getting the short end of the stick when asking for support, it’s best to crack the code of a workplace. Google key phrases used on company career pages and meet with newbies to decipher what the work environment will really be like. If you can nail down a couple of informational interviews or coffee chats with other diverse people at the company, you can put your feelers out for what you might experience.

Solidarity—specifically POC solidarity—amongst the working class would be nice to have. It’s not always a realistic expectation, however, and shouldn’t be considered a given. Since capitalism has us all in a chokehold, know that some people view work as strictly business and not at all about community — aka, they’re only there for their paycheck, growth, and advancement. Some POC and disenfranchised identities may be in denial about how accepted they are as well. They may deny that racism, colorism, sexism, ableism, ageism, etc., affect them and their work. They may believe all employees are judged based on their merit and productivity alone. In other words, these folks are drinking the Kool-Aid. These are not the people to confide in or seek camaraderie. You’ll want to establish other allies in your workplace instead.

3. Establish External Allies

The phrase “it’s who you know” has its advantages for those who may not have as much social currency as others. Making friends in toxic workplaces with those adjacent to you can offer perspective. Perhaps what you’re experiencing is an organizational-wide phenomenon, and you can find allies in those holding similar positions. Have honest conversations with the circle you curate—questions like:

• Do supervisors share the same temperament when employees set boundaries?

• Do you feel you’re able to do your job well in the current environment?

• Are you getting paid the same for executing similar tasks?

• How would you want the work culture to change?

• What would help you do your job more effectively?

They may share the same background, concerns, and needs, which would be better brought to the forefront together as a united front. You’ll also be able to support each other through the chaotic field of microaggressions, mistreatment, fear, and ego trips. If available at your workplace, you might want to put in the time to befriend a couple of Human Resources employees. With more intimate knowledge of your work and perspective, they may be able to offer unique guidance or advocate for departmental transitions that may be a better culture and leadership fit for you. If all else fails, or in addition to creating a chosen family of friends, try identifying allies within the external collaborators you work with. You should have at least one person from partnering teams you trust enough to share your experience with if you don’t feel comfortable with anyone else at your organization.

4. Reconsider Human Resources

Depending on how genuine the workplace is about creating a healthy and inclusive environment, it may be worth it to get Human Resources (HR) involved. Smaller companies may hire out and retain a Human Resources consultant to resolve issues if they have a designated party or department at all. Remember that Human Resources is there to protect the workplace, company, or organization. That means you’ll want to:

• Document and save everything related to the toxicity

• How toxicity is showing up

• Who is ruffling feathers

• Specific incidents with “receipts”

• How you’ve tried to resolve the situation

• What you would like to see by coming forward with your experience

HR may not always be able to enact change, as you may be the first brave soul to come forward, but they typically don’t take kindly to retaliation of any sort by superiors. It may take a while to see actual progress as they do have to follow protocol, so maintaining a record of what’s happening at the moment is highly recommended to safeguard your sanity in the meantime. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for a different contact if you feel the specialist you’re speaking to is exhibiting prejudice of any kind.

At the end of the day, your peace matters. You deserve to feel safe in every aspect of the word. Whether that’s at home, at work, in conversation, or in partnership. Build a strong support system of good-natured, compassionate people. They are out there, and they can make navigating harmful work environments a little bit more bearable. We may not all love our jobs because debt slavery is a real thing in capitalistic states, but protecting your peace as a person of color in a toxic workplace should never come at the cost of your health, mental health, or livelihood.

Trust your instincts,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers

Being a changemaker is more than just advocating for social issues, justice, or equality. It’s also about calling for change in the small, ordinary, everyday facets of life. As the hustle and bustle of the holiday season picks up, here are some ways to stay true to the activist in you.

Shop Small

Challenge yourself to find small-business alternatives to big-box suppliers. The Amazon's of the world are extremely enticing because of their convenience and monopoly, but there are plenty of small businesses that can meet your material needs and feel-good service expectations.

Shop BIPOC

With the recent spike in interest in investing in BIPOC creatives and brands, supporting Black, AAPI, Latinx, and Indigenous shops is a classic showcase of crowd power. Doing so signals to investors the importance of amplifying diverse missions, as well as showing artists and brand owners themselves that their craft (or storefront) is appreciated and can stand tall on its own.

Shop Green

Tackle intersectional issues when you shop for green and forest restoration projects. When scrolling for the perfect gift, check to see if the brands and service providers you frequent are partnering with farmer coalitions, replanting organizations, eco-friendly packaging initiatives, community gardens, and conservation organizations. Wherever it applies, also try to buy refurbished, upcycled, or used. Even the smallest contribution towards sustainability makes a huge difference.

Shop Local

Reduce shipping stress by shopping at your local bookstore, e-boutique, or home goods store. This goes hand-in-hand with shopping small most times, but shopping local also tells the market that supporting your next-door neighbor is more in demand. Skip the stress, scour your map app, and take a stroll to see what love-infused gifts and products you find.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Making conscious decisions is how consumers can shift the market and tip the scales towards a more balanced society. Relax, it’s not as daunting as it sounds. The more you put these small steps towards unified progress, the easier it becomes — and more of a normalized ritual.

It was rather difficult curating this season’s sustainable style recommendations according to its trends. Partially because of limited brand-provided sustainability reports and environmental impact, as recycled plastics are still plastics. Partially because of and/or their unethical scandals. Primarily because ethical and eco-friendly garment prices are slowly inching their way towards those of atelier-ready-to-wear lines.

If you were to Google this occurrence, there are several articles detailing why sustainable fashion prices are so expensive. Anyone who participates in the fair fashion movement understands that ethically produced clothes come with an expensive price tag. However, the hefty prices associated with these garments are just getting more exorbitant and astronomical. Post-pandemic inflation may be playing a role, yes, but it’s hard not to see that there’s been a rise in sustainable brands shutting their doors.

In theory, label shutdowns could be due to industry prices increasing from an average of $100-$180 per piece to $250-$500 per piece, depending on the brand, cut, production process, factory practices, wage agreements, and materials. The average working-class American consumer takes home between $34,248 and $51,480, with the “middle” class earning an average of $53,413 and $106,827, according to PolicyAdvice. There’s a stark difference between these income estimates, which don’t take into account racial, gender, age, disability, and immigration-based disparities, or worldwide averages; although this data was gathered in 2018-2021, these median salaries show the continuation of the class divide.

Long story short: Salaries aren’t mirroring skyrocketing prices. It’s becoming harder to find ethically made or sourced clothes/products that most folks can afford, even if they want or need to participate in the movement for health reasons or to reduce their toxin intake. After years of folks asking why sustainable fashion is so expensive, brands are starting to host their own “recycled” and “pre-loved” marketplaces. These in-house resale programs encourage consumers to send back their used pieces to receive discounts or store credit, giving brands the chance to compete with thrifting outlets. Some brands are using these programs as a ploy to “introduce” fair fashion to consumers seeking affordability. However, forty-dollar discounts and credits certainly won’t be enough to make a dent in $180-$500 garments.

The truth remains: The majority of people who reside in the working class cannot afford garments advocating for the fair wages of others—oh, the irony! If those in the majority class can’t afford the pieces that demand corporate responsibility and the best of the fashion industry, then how does the product move? How are the fair treatment, pay, and working conditions for garment workers being supported? How can everyday folks “vote with their dollars” and demand a production cycle that’s kind to the earth?

It begs the question: Are social good and impact brands skimming some off the top, essentially engaging in their own perceived moral version of price gouging and fairwashing to stay alive? Or are they deliberately trying to appeal to higher-income individuals?

As an ethical fashion stylist and long-time supporter of the cause, it makes me wonder if the sustainable fashion movement is getting hijacked to become a status symbol for the few; it’s getting to the point where we must ask ourselves if it’s becoming an exclusionary, classist, postural movement and expression preserved only for the middle-to-upper classes. We must ask ourselves if the movement, too, is becoming more about putting profits before people and the planet in a softly veiled way.

2022 has welcomed another fall season with record-breaking weather to solidify the severity of climate change. For those looking to be responsible with their transitional and cold-weather wardrobe, let’s discuss sustainable alternatives for fall’s most notable trends, as noted by Vogue’s forecast.

The Art of Texture

Fall/Winter collections are reflecting the 18-month Taurus North Node transit. This means texture play and mixing price points will serve your transitional wardrobe well with Taurus ruling the earth, senses, throat, shoulders, sensuality, worth, and material wealth.

Texture play could be as simple as finding the balance between the Divine Masculine and Feminine as their energies relate to fashion. Integrating pieces like Nicole Benefield’s Ying Yang Muse Block Jacket into your trans-seasonal wardrobe is one way to express this theme of putting on a sensory experience with lavish, movement-inspired, and yet reasonably-priced pieces.

Another way to highlight texture this season is with layering. Now, layering is nothing new when it comes to sweater weather. However, it’s how you layer that takes a casual look up a notch. For example, blanketing a longline coat atop a Filipa K asymmetrical top or dress is one surefire way to make a statement at seasonal outings this year. Even experimenting with this season’s most-celebrated callback, the corset can add a feminine flair to harsh lines, masculine textures, and enchanting hues. Reformation’s Cove, Sorrento, and Veda Montrose tops can appease the senses all on their own; layered atop a long-sleeve turtleneck, mock neck dress, or washed pant can elevate your autumn essentials quicker than you can make a pumpkin cold brew. Just remember, as you sip your cold brew, that you’ll want to engage the five senses this season with your third pieces, accents, and main attractions.

The Classics, Upgraded

The sustainable fashion movement made ‘back to basics’ trendy, but it’s about time the basics got an upgrade. With the North Node in Taurus until July of 2023, it’s not surprising that simple yet luxuriously understated designs are packing a punch.

Coats, jackets, sweaters, and cardigans are to be expected when days shift from a cute summer breeze to those filled with cozy, chilly, and overcast weather. Take the cue to swap out your standard leather jacket for corduroy jackets like ABLE’s Joan Shacket and matte leather blazers. Deji Studios and Faithful the Brand are labels taking ‘updated classics’ to a whole-nother-level with quilted and bold, retro-inspired prints and stripes.

Instead of reaching for bland, static comfort pieces, you could make the switch to autumn easily with subtle tweaks to classic styles, such as opting for color-blocked knits like Ninety Percent’s India True Knit Bold Stripe Sweater. Even nighties got an upgrade thanks to the modern-day pajama factory Sleeper. Their multifunctional take on sleepwear makes ethically-crafted sleep sets and dreamy dresses the go-to for playdates, family activities, wine and cheese festivals, drinks with a friend, or a night in with take-out. Thankfully, putting sloped-sleeved undergarments and lingerie on full display won’t be frowned upon this season.

The Silhouette of Upper Strength

Keeping in line with bodices and silhouettes inspired by the Taurus north node, Ninety Percent’s Amelia True Knit Open Button Top, Wallflower Tencel™ Slash Dress, and their Jonguil Organic Cotton Poplin Woven Diagonal Strap Dress all satisfy this fall’s love of strong and flirty shoulders. Ninety Percent is a responsible, ready-to-wear brand that donates 90% of its profits to charity. Their Lupin Troficolor Fine Twill Round Sleeve Dress takes a laidback approach to bringing all the drama and getting your money’s worth. Its multipurpose design makes the price tag a tad bit more worth it. Along with the Crane Dress by Two Days Off, poplin balloon sleeves may put silky slip dresses to shame. If you get stuck or confused about what to wear, puffed and angled statement sleeves won’t fail you.

The Nude Label is a slow fashion brand based in Valencia, Spain, that produces organic underwear, swimwear, and care products. With sustainable fashion not being as fashion-forward, The Nude Label is one of the original organic underwear brands to modernize what sustainable intimate wear looks like. Their designs include bras, briefs, trunks, thongs, socks, candles, and soap. With more consumers caring about fabrics and how they’re treated, The Nude Label is known for its use of organic cotton and toxic-free, low-impact dyes that are kind on the skin and to the Earth. Here’s what to consider before you splurge:

The Basics

Before purchasing from any brand, it’s always worth it to look up their Good on You rating to get a snapshot of their brand’s commitment to sustainability. Being that Nude Label was one of the first cotton-only underwear brands that caught our eye during the height of the sustainable fashion movement, we weren’t surprised to see they received a ‘Good’ brand rating from Good on You, which isn’t an easy rating to come by.

Their use of environmentally-conscious materials, local manufacturing, and supply chain audits landed them a 5/5 for animals and 4/5 for people and the planet.

Generally known for being reasonably priced for an ethical brand, their undergarments are also hypoallergenic, which is a strong selling point for those with sensitive skin and allergies. If you read our last review about Everlane’s Invisible Bra, you’d know why we are in favor of organic cotton undergarments sans the chemicals.

Here are some key notes about their brand signature:

1. They use organic cotton, farmed naturally without the use of pesticides or agrochemicals.

2. They use non-toxic dyes with playful colorways.

3. Their garments are curvy-friendly.

4. Their wide-strap bras are bust-friendly.

5. Their less is more, natural approach.

They also use recycled polyamide in the form of Q-Nova for some of their swimwear and modern underwear styles. The recycled polyamide is produced by Fulgar using pre-consumption waste. Depending on how committed you are to reducing your plastic intake, you might want to reconsider their recycled polyamide pieces. All in all, The Nude Lables uses no-nonsense materials to produce well-made and simple intimate wear, giving them a leg-up in marketing with consumers knowing exactly what to expect.

The Brand

Pros

Their Approach: The Nude Label takes a laid-back approach to underwear. They embody the idea that consumers can ask more of their underwear and make sure it’s worthy of being on their bodies. Especially for sensitive skin folks who have to take extra care and precautions, underwear has to be both functional and gentle. Sometimes, “sustainable” brands take the easy road out, opting for intimate lines that feature cotton-poly blends or recycled nylons. For stretch, we typically see elastane in undergarments, so that isn’t as concerning. However, having a product that’s primarily derived from plastic (recycled or not) can lead to bodily reactions.

Their Options: Eco brands tend to drop the ball in the inclusivity department. Most of them adopt an “organic” look with cookie-cutter styles and colorways that are typically demonstrated only on white, olive, and generally lighter-complected thin people. They rarely show how their pieces look on deeper skin tones and real bodies, alienating marginalized consumers as they can’t determine how styles and colors will look on them. Most of the offered color options wash out rich complexions, and size options are limited. With that in mind, we appreciate how The Nude Label’s colors are suitable for a variety of skin tones and shapes. Shown on models of color and curvy body types—specifically Mauve, Lilac, Sunflower, Midnight Blue, Chocolate, Pumpkin, and Pearl Gray—consumers can see how kind their hues and patterns are to olive and rich skin tones, and how flattering their cuts and current sizes are.

The only note we had was regarding their Chocolate colorway, which we would love to see on a darker-complected model. It’s a pet peeve of ours not to see these colors displayed on brown skin, especially since brown-skin folks may gravitate toward them in search of their “perfect” nude.

We rarely see melanated-friendly underwear in fashion in general, and the industry refuses to acknowledge that “nude” is not nude for everyone. Some colors appear lackluster and ashy on certain skin tones. For consumers to feel their best, we need more brands like The Nude Label that appeal to a variety of customers. Their colorways serve those who like vibrant colors with a minimalistic aesthetic, as well as those who take a more simple, neutral-toned approach.

So, this is a note to all sustainable brands: Offer a reference point for the consumers who tend to be forgotten and overshadowed in the marketing of it all. Otherwise, you’ll end up pushing them away.

Their Packaging: Unlike Everlane, every aspect of The Nude Label’s packaging is biodegradable. The parcel and plastic bags each product is shipped in are derived from plants and are biodegradable.

Cons

Their Prices: They are prices are steep for everyday consumers earning minimum wage or a tad bit more. They average $33 for bottoms, $38 for trunks, $65 for bras, and $72 for bodysuits. Their swimwear prices average $72-$80 for tops, $39-$46 for bottoms, and $124 for one-pieces. They’re definitely a brand you want to use a promo code on, shop final sale, or wait for a sale if you’re on a budget.

Ideally, we’d like to see them offer bundles at a discounted rate or extend their 3-pair discount to apply to carts purchasing 5, 7, or 9 bottoms at a time. They could make it easier for people to buy multiples in a way that doesn’t break the bank. Right now, their 3-pack discount sits at $4.95 off of $99. It’s not really enough to make a dent for average consumers, although we understand they’re probably trying to ensure they still make enough of a profit with the cost of materials, inflation, etc.

Their Size Range: It’s worth noting that we would like to see a more inclusive size range for ethical brands across the board, so this critique isn’t specific to The Nude Label. For reference, their bras serve FR/ES/PT sizes 100-105B and 105-110C and USA/UK sizes 38-40B and 38-40C. Their XL bottoms serve USA sizes 12-14, FR sizes 42-44, UK/AUS sizes 14-16. We would like to see their size range expanded to include larger bra sizes, 2XL and 3XL bottoms, and so on.

Their Transparency: As with all fair fashion brands, we would like to see a full breakdown of their product impact. Give us a sustainability report for each product—i.e., how much water is saved, rainforests or trees saved, offset carbon emissions, etc. People like to know the impact they’re making with their purchase, and it gives more of a window into the production process. As consumers become more conscious, brands will have to do more to prove they’re not greenwashing.

Their Return Process: Returns can be more of a slow and pricy process for international customers. Store credit would be the best option for overseas consumers rather than a refund. The restock fee is waived for returns receiving store credit, and the money will be ready to use once the return is processed. You can think of your panty funds almost as being on “reserve.”

Nude Label Bras

The Quality: Reviews boast their Basic Bras and Triangle Bras as being comfortable, durable, and extremely well-made. They’re hailed as being sturdy at the seams, offering a good balance between fabric and elastane. Sometimes, elastane can pull at softer fabrics and cause the seams to unravel, but the seams are stitched very well.

The Colors: Their Basic Bra looks better in darker colors since some of the lighter colors, like Mauve, show the seams a bit more. Their more playful pigments can also be more noticeable under lighter tops.

The Fit: The Basic Bra’s cups, band, and straps are all incredibly comfortable to wear. The straps are easy to adjust and non-constricting; they’re not overbearing or extremely noticeable. The best word to describe this bra is: compact. Without giving it much thought, everything is in place and secure.

Their Triangle Bra is a sexier option for smaller chests, giving the illusion of fuller cleavage. The straps are much thinner than the Basic Bra’s but provide the same comfort and adjustable fit. It doesn’t offer as much support as the Basic Bra, however, due to the thin straps.

The Cups: The cups are supportive and give a nice lift, although they’re made of cotton. They provide an overall flattering shape.

The Clasp: The clasp slides in and out, so there’s no fumbling and special maneuvers to get the bra on. It’s easy and no-fuss—exactly how all clasps should be.

The Fabric: Being 100% organic cotton, the fabric is breathable and doesn’t elicit sweat. However, cotton is thicker than we typically see used for undergarments. Because of that, the Basic Bra may be more noticeable when worn with certain shirts and tops due to its thickness.

Overall: The support, comfort, breathability, and quality are there. We would love to see their bra line expand in the future to include a padded or push-up option, but that may require more recycled plastic than consumers may like.

Nude Label Underwear

Their Culotte bottoms are one of the more modern underwear styles they offer. Their Triangle brief is more of a hybrid between modern swimwear and traditional bikini bottom, whereas their Hipster style is more of a cheeky bikini bottom.

The Quality: The Culottes have a thicker seam on the backside, making them a bit more comfortable to wear with more coverage.

The Triangle brief has a sturdy elastic band that fits perfectly around the waist and gives a more sinched-in illusion, allowing hips to shine through like a ’90s bikini. The stitching around the thick band is a bit more delicate, therefore, you may notice the threads unravel more with this style than the others.

The Hipster has a no-fuss, tried-and-true construction with clean seams and neat stitching.

The Colors: As noted with the TNL bras, the darker colors look best. You might want to opt for black, as lighter colors may fade or become duller over time due to natural coloring techniques.

The Fit: For fuller-bottomed and pear-shaped folks, TNL’s Culottes might ride up like boy shorts, so it’s best to size up. The Triangle brief can quickly take on the fit of a thong since it’s a higher cut overall. Out of the three styles, the Hipster acts as mid-rise underwear. They’re a little flirty and provide decent coverage. We would love to see them expand their sizes to accommodate curvier consumers.

The Fabric: All underwear styles are breathable with only 5% elastane and 95% organic cotton. Finding this small a percentage of elastane in underwear is pretty rare. Larger brands tend to use more plastic-derived fabrics, such as polyester, nylon, rayon, elastane, and spandex for stretch and to reduce costs. However, some folks may experience irritation and might be sensitive to these materials, especially when they’re in close proximity to reproductive organs. While TNL offers some relief from these concerns, their styles also run on the smaller side since they don’t offer much stretch or variation for body shapes that measure the same size.

Overall: TNL bottoms are just as well-made as their bras, with the Hipster being our top recommendation for its versatility.

Going Forward

It would be incredible to see TNL branch out to include lingerie. With their level of quality, their fun yet simple aesthetic can go very far in the sustainable lingerie space! They do have a sheer bra for the adventurous, but a push-up bra could shake up sustainable intimate wear. A strapless bra option—whether a convertible style with removable straps or a more traditional take on that style—could also provide consumers more functional flexibility. Even a halter bra option could reset the game and shock those who doubt just how modern ethical and eco-friendly styles can be. Long boxers, briefs, etc., could make things exciting, too!

As far as colorways and fabrics go, there’s always room for more colors, prints, and textures! For example, TNL could dip their toe into neutral-toned ribbed designs. Palm, pebble, sand, grain-inspired, or simple graphic prints could be interesting for limited edition, seasonal collections. Even an emerald or forest green could spice things up a bit! Their pumpkin color is especially flattering for melanated folks, but it’s usually sold out or exclusive to certain styles. So, a '50 Shades of Nude’, SKIMS-like collection with a fair-wage and responsible production slant could offer a lot of appeal for the world’s endless spectrum of skintones.

For sustainable underwear as a whole, conscious consumers could benefit from more breadth! Gender nuetral shapewear, loungewear, pajamas, leggings, tank tops, camis, robes, sleep sets, and thermalwear sets would patch up a unique hole in the market. Think: Luyna, but uber natural and organic, and potentially starting out with small-batch production first.

The Nude Label is a special brand that could position itself as the Thinking MU of underwear and undergarments, unafraid to incorporate color and print and unconventional neutrals while keeping the basics for the simplistic, minimal folks. For example, they could even build out their “Care” line to include clothes pins, dryer balls, laundry bags for delicates, incense, sleep masks, a chic meditation pouf, or a Tencel yoga mat. They could even do a light unisex activewear line similar to Indigo Luna, but only featuring Hemp, Tencel, and breathable cottons. They could also venture out into the clot pad department. The point is: We need more products (and brands) like theirs! With their value and aesthetic, they could really become a staple for progressive shoppers.

Is The Nude Label Worth It?

If you have sensitive skin, prioritize natural fibers, and want underwear that actually cares about you (and the planet), then we recommend purchasing from The Nude Label. $23 is pretty steep for one pair of underwear bottoms, so think about utilizing The Nude Label’s three-pair deal to receive a slight discount before clicking ‘Purchase’. Otherwise, we recommend splurging during a sale. Their brand is a nice blend of eco-luxury and a rare gem—there aren’t that many brands that can compare. So far, we’ve found that Organic Basics and Proclaim are about as close as it gets.

Organic Basics provides more styles, sizes, colors, and collections for tops and bottoms, and they also include each product’s traceability, CO2, and environmental impact information under the ‘Sustainability Impact’ tab. Some pieces contain a higher percentage of elastane than TNL, so be sure to check the ‘Fabric + Care’ section of each piece if you’re conscious about fabrics and materials.

Proclaim goes into grave detail about the materials they use and provides inclusive nude shades on top of a healthy size range. It’d actually be really helpful to consumers if more ethical and sustainable brands presented sizes as Proclaim does, indicating cup size and so on.

However, as with most environmentally-focused brands, we would love to see The Nude Label keep pushing toward more inclusivity and creativity because we, the people, are ready for that.

Update

The Nude Label announced in an Instagram post on September 16, 2022, that it would be shutting down after nine years, and we’re so sad to see them go! Let’s hope their small business receives an outpouring of support so it can keep its doors open or return in the future.

Dear Friends,

You can do everything “right” and still be depressed. That’s because seasonal depression, or Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), can occur during annual weather and time changes. Other times, it could be brought on by emotionally charged times of the year, like the holidays. For example, I find the holidays to be a time riddled with judgment, judgment of the self brought on by the self, others, and the illusion of linear living. When seasonal depression takes over, it can be defeating, overwhelming, and all-consuming.

With 1 in 5 adults struggling with mental illness, it’s not shocking to discover that SAD occurs more in folks who experience and live with other disorders. The rise of mental illness may explain why mindfulness therapies have been on the rise in recent years. Folks are opting to manage stress, anxiety, and depression with yoga, meditation, breathwork, sound healing, light and nature therapy over medication. But no one talks about when your mindfulness routine doesn’t work due to a false sense of control, which can lead to aspects of spiritual bypassing. Here are some tips to add to your toolkit before the next season of “winter blues” hits:

Shift with the Season

Don’t let your routine keep you from facing or processing your emotions. A mindfulness routine can feel redundant or hinder true healing when SAD starts to set in. It may feel like the things that help you on a typical day don’t hit the same way. It may help to deviate from your routine if it doesn't seem fulfilling anymore. For example, you may want to shift to nature walks or more rigorous exercise if you’re usually a yoga fanatic.

Take some time to check in and tune into yourself to find out what you need to thrive during the current season. Think about what triggered this temporary sadness and what you need to hear to experience moments of compassion with yourself. Do you need to change your diet to feel better or more nourished? Do you need to change your spiritual or mindfulness routine?

If a ten or fifteen-minute meditation sounds like too much of a commitment, try a light breathwork exercise first thing when you wake up in the morning, repeating affirmations that push back on your inner critic and current headspace, affirmations like:

• I am evolving.

• I am doing the best I can.

• I am not responsible for other people’s feelings.

• I show up for myself in the capacity I need to today.

• I will love myself through this.

If you find this exercise too challenging, try tuning into Affirmation Pod by Josie Ong. Episodes like Spinning My Wheels And Not Getting Anywhere, I am Living in my Brilliance (Ep. 410), and Coming Out of a Slump (Ep. 413) were made for transitional periods that seem to last forever. Listen to our affirmations for overcoming SAD as well.

Venture Out into the Growth Zone

Isolating yourself and repeating self-limiting stories can be very tempting during any bout of depression, and it’s easy to get stuck there. Pay attention to the stories that show up. Challenge yourself to venture out into the growth zone as soon as you notice when your false self is trying to convince you to stay in your comfort zone.

If being alone seems more hurtful than helpful, the growth zone may look like challenging yourself to get out in nature more, check in with a friend, or schedule an in-person visit with a trusted family member. It could also look like challenging yourself to take practical, actionable steps towards your goals, especially for procrastinators or those who feel like their goals are just passing them by.

One thing to keep in mind is that you don’t have to follow the linear timeline. For example, a lot of my seasonal depression stems from comparing my life trajectory to the socially accepted path of those in my age group. That could look like beating myself up for not being on the road to having kids, becoming a homeowner, or achieving my fitness and health goals. Take small steps. Sign up for that gym membership, research first-time home buyer resources, create a realistic budget, put yourself out there, or re-evaluate what you want out of a relationship. Do something (even if it’s small) to address and push your goals forward. That way, you feel reassured, curious enough to keep going, and confident about moving on and moving forward into the unknown.

Rest to Reinspire

Yes, this made the list as cliché as it is! Some seasons in life are busier than others. Depending on where you fall on the introversion-extroversion scale, pulling back from exerting your energy may be the answer. It may be well-advised for you to take a break from creating or stripping back your obligations. You may find taking a hiatus from your to-do list reinspires you.

Temper your input versus output. Going back to basics may help you fall back in love with your day job or passion projects because rest allows you to take the pressure off. It allows you to review your processes and audit efficiencies. Maybe it will let you re-evaluate what you value. For example, it may inspire you to shift your focus to spending more time offline doing in-person, interactive hobbies. So then you can spend more time with those you love or have more time to do more of what you love, which creates an entirely new cycle of rest, gratitude, fulfillment, and self-trust.

Pay Attention to Your Cycles

In addition to getting professional help, paying attention to your own cycles can help you turn things around. Remember when (and why) you start to feel overwhelmed with depression, comparison, and judgment. Do certain months out of the year bring up hard feelings, stuckness, and stagnancy? Do certain dynamics make it hard to open up? If so, set yourself up for success by jotting down these dates and what helped you manage these feelings of despair. And as you continue to love and learn about yourself, don’t forget to let things be what they are. Let your feelings be what they are. Feel what you feel. Come to terms with where you find yourself so you can be honest about how you need to show up, even during your off-seasons.

Honor the season you’re in,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers

Although it may all still feel like a blur, 2020 was a year filled with a plethora of quarantine love stories. Folks all over the globe had their own 90-day fiancé experiences, some sheltering in place with their recent dates or hookups. After hearing these success stories, people flocked to the online dating scene with quirky taglines in tow. Some folks made the most of their algorithm-induced matches and virtual dates, while others continued to swipe left. Where swiping through people like a speed dating session has become the norm, conscious dating apps are attempting to make modern dating more meaningful, but are they safe and inclusive? If you’re looking for answers while navigating the mindful dating movement, here are some resources and tips to get the most out of your experience:

Defining the Movement

The mindful dating movement is one free of judgment. It requires participants to be honest with what they need and want in a partnership, with every stage of dating being intentional. Participants focus on remaining self-attuned and authentic while seeking a secure, evolutionary partnership that honors each partner’s wholeness, experiences, needs, and sense of self. Transparency, reciprocation, healthy boundaries, conscious communication, and combined growth anchor the relationship.

Before Putting Yourself Out There

A level of healing and introspection is required before conscious romantics slide into the DM’s. For example, diving into your attachment style, love language, childhood traumas, and family dynamics can give you insight into your dating history. For example, do your previous partners resemble your parents’ behavioral patterns? Do you have an avoidant attachment style? Are you afraid of commitment or intimacy? Do you hold limiting beliefs, have mental health struggles, or exhibit toxic traits when your inherited beliefs are challenged? Has racial or religious trauma impacted your relationships or your ability to remain open and curious about them? Are you afraid of the stigmas or stereotypes attached to your sexuality, or do you internalize those judgments? Are there mindsets and patterns of behavior you have to unlearn?

Before you put yourself out there, make all the effort to heal your “stuff.” This inner work is part of the mindfulness equation because merging your life with another’s takes radical self-acceptance and awareness to be honest enough to build trust. You don’t want your “stuff” to hinder your chances of having a healthy, respectful relationship from the start. You also want your foundation of self to be solid, and healing your “stuff” will help you better understand your truth, triggers, and traumas enough to communicate them.

As with traditional dating, the conscious adaptation is only going to be as open as you are or want to be. Know going in that folks have different motivations, wants, preferences, and visions for their life. Reserving judgment of your differences can help manage expectations and respect one’s rejection without internalizing it. One of the most endearing parts of mindful dating is upholding the belief that you and all its participants are worthy and enough, so remember to love yourself through the process.

Finding the Right App

The conscious dating experience could hinge on the app used. Understanding what you want or looking for in a partnership first will put you on the path to the right app for you. Make the discovery a mindfulness practice, perhaps journaling the relationship dynamics you witnessed as a child versus those you would like to call in or experience as an adult. You may want to consider how you might be at the intersection of several social issues, too, as your identifiers should be included on the app you select, as it could shape your experience. Before selecting an app, it’s best to know as many potential obstacles and limitations as possible.

Don’t let the horror stories of online dating stop you before you start; focus on being informed. Do your due diligence, research, and ask about the apps other successful modern-day couples use. Hinge, Bumble, and MeetMindful are some of the top conscious dating apps based on user success rates and testimonials. Users credit their success to these apps’ interactive prompts and preference selections, which are essential when trying to spark a genuine connection. If all else fails, our trusty Bible for all things sustainable and mindful living, The Good Trade, compiled a list of conscious dating apps for those looking to start their starry-eyed love and platonic soulmate journey.

Creating a Profile

Authenticity is key when creating your profile. Don’t shy away from putting yourself or your culture on full display. Showcase various photos that give insight into your personality, traditions, outlook on life, and how mindfulness plays into all of that. You want your profile to spark questions and healthy conversations about cultural differences, likenesses, world views, and how your lived experiences have shaped you.

The same goes for your past and previous partnerships. You don’t have to dive too deep into them, but you should know how they impacted you and what you’re looking for in a relationship—enough to convey that on your profile or when filling out your preferences and deal breakers. Don’t be shy to set firm boundaries and stick to them, either. Be clear about your needs in a relationship—e.g., if you are open or closed off to third-party situations, polyamory, drugs/alcohol use, divorcees, children, political minds, etc. Indicate which of these are absolutely off-limits for you or if you’d still be open to connecting with someone who dabbles with opposing desires or habits.

You can even flat-out state that you’re only looking for an ally, especially if you identify as someone who is marginalized, racialized, or with limited privilege. Doing so will set you up for success. It may help you find better matches and offer more transparency than most. It’s important to remember to be as open as your heart allows or as safety permits.

Meeting a Match

This phase of the process requires honesty and a healthy ego from both parties, as rejection may follow suit. Take a second to think things through when that mutual heart pops up in your notifications. Feel things out for a bit during your initial conversations on the app, following your internal guidance system every step of the way. This would be the time to enforce or reinforce those boundaries and deal breakers you drafted for yourself before hopping on your chosen app. Give others grace, sure, but follow your intuitive nudges when they ping you. Oh, and be on the lookout for scammers and solicitors inviting you to connect outside the app immediately.

Now, one thing conscious dating apps are good for is encouraging authenticity and non-judgment. As a member, lean into that, and you’ll find others do the same. The first message you receive may be a match warning you about how they engage with some of your deal-breakers, giving you the chance to choose for yourself if you’d like to move forward with a formal conversation. Practice fairness and reciprocity by altering the match of your personal preferences, identifiers, or your engagements with their deal breakers (if they’re not already visible on your profile). That way, you’re starting a connection without any secrets and being firmly planted in your truth. It may not be easy—share all of this, knowing rejection may come, but it won’t kill you.

If rejected, be kind to yourself and the other person. Understanding that you may not be in alignment with someone is an intentional act that implements differentiation. Refrain from giving someone a “pass” because of your attraction to them, and refrain from morphing your beliefs, actions, or desires to match theirs. Stand firm and true to who you are, feeling all the feels for however long you need to. Then, get back on the horse.

If you identify as a marginalized person, beware of folks who pretend to understand your experience or use macro/microaggressions as a way to presume reliability. It’s unfortunate, but some folks see QTBIPOC folks only as novelty props. Listen closely to the rhetoric used and how they respond to your needs or requests for all forms of safety. Their response will either indicate their compassion, respect, and maturity or reveal their mask (if it doesn’t completely fall).

It’s typically advised by couples who’ve met on dating apps to get off the app as soon as possible. Once you feel safe, heard, and seen in your early chats, think about how you’d like to continue your conversations. Giving out personal information too soon can open the door to potential safety risks. Take a page out of the “rich and famous” playbook—acquire an alternate phone number specifically to safeguard your privacy while dating online. And for the love of all that’s important to you, don’t forget to verify who you’re speaking with!

Meeting Virtually

You definitely don’t want to be getting catfished out here, so request a digital hangout before an IRL date. Consult with Zoom, Skype, FaceTime, or other conference-friendly services to set up your e-meet.

Not only will you be able to verify your match is real with lower risks involved, but you’ll also be able to get a better feel for compatibility. This is the time to observe how your match shows up, for themselves and for you.

For example, are they often late, or do they respect the time you both agree to see each other? Are they who they portray themselves to be online? Do they cut you off or barely let you get a word in? Are they social, and you’re more of a private person? Do you vibe well together, or is the energy between you completely off? Are you both okay seeing other people while getting to know each other, or do you want to continue talking exclusively to one other?

This stage is an excellent time to have impactful and light-hearted conversations. You know, all the basics you’d usually talk about on a first date? You’ll both be grateful for this risk-free way of getting to know each other, not wasting much time or incurring extra expenses too soon. Set aside time to evaluate how you both feel about moving forward to meeting in real life on one of your e-dates. After a couple of dates exchanging vulnerability, you should have a pretty good idea of whether your connection is one you’d like to continue investing in.

Meeting in Real Life

Now, for the moment you’ve been waiting for—meeting in person! The great thing about this phase is that you both “know” each other to some extent. Your e-dates laid the foundation for you, and you can focus on being present with each other with less awkwardness. Be natural and embrace the organic flow of your relationship.

Keeping safety in mind, discuss how you’ll be traveling and pick a public meet-up spot. Notify your trusted inner circle where you’ll be, especially if your IRL date includes transit for multiple locations. You can even tell your match that you have another excursion to get to after your date (preferably with a real-life person). Never lose sight of safety or your right to privacy as you allow yourself to date and explore life with another.

Make sure you’re on the same page with your matches and reaffirm your boundaries as time progresses. Give yourself and the other person grace; incorporating a new person into your life is a steep learning curve. Remember that mindful dating is as open as you are or want to be. Stay curious, communicative, and transparent in all you do on and off the apps. After all, the whole point of conscious dating is to break the cycles of toxic pairings we’ve all come to know all too well, thanks to either our personal experiences or the media. Let the process crack you open and create connections that challenge you to evolve.

Most people don’t find fashion to be of importance, so much so that fashion degrees are assumed to be a waste of tuition. However, with fashion being one of the major contributors to global pollution, your closet and buying decisions do make a difference. An industry driven primarily by tradition, consumers can affect change by forcibly changing production lines and becoming more informed consumers with future-focused buying habits. The pioneers of 2017 ran so that today’s eco-ethical brands could walk into 2022 with new and improved practices; therefore, bringing all of us modern, low-impact pieces.

There are three notable trends we predict to see paraded throughout this summer. Here are some sustainable alternatives for them, so you don’t have to compromise style for sustainability:

The Mini Skirt

Loungewear lines skyrocketed during the pandemic as folks were thrust into remote work. Life sure is a lot easier when you can roll out of bed and only have to get dressed from the top up. This summer, markets are responding to COVID fatigue as the masses are slated to seek outdoor activities now more than ever. Collectively, it seems the people are demanding wares to show the legs that have been hidden underneath thermal wear and chunky knits.

Instead of turning to fast-fashion figureheads like ASOS, ZARA, and Fashion Nova, you can get your mini skirt fix at Reformation. A brand known for cutting down the waste of garment design from start to finish, their Margot, Veranda, Benson, Robbie, and Flounce skirts will fulfill all of your 90s call-back needs. Offered in retro-inspired prints, each design details sustainability stats, such as gallons of water saved, diverted waste, and the offset of carbon dioxide emissions. Get curated recommendations and find the right fit with thigh-high slits available in sizes 12 to 24. For unisex options, A.BCH and Tonlé provide animated prints that harken back to Alexander McQueen’s angst, with the latter being the most affordable option. If you really don’t want to break the bank, go against the grain by adding a Thinking Mu composition to your wardrobe.

The Moto Look

The defiance continues with simplified and reimagined moto jackets. Will’s Vegan Store and Deadwood make third pieces out of bio-based materials and give water bottles a new life. Both e-boutiques are doing their part to source and produce premium, toxic-free, plastic-free plant leather goods by repurposing deadstock and common grocery products. Mushroom, cactus, and pineapple leathers are the better, smarter option for conscious shoppers, as they’re typically compostable and free of the toxic chemicals synthetic leathers bring.

Use this spring and summer as an opportunity to layer cruelty-free leather jackets on top of slouchy, super-wide denim. Or, bring back the portion-play of the ‘90s by pairing Deadwood’s Wren, Frankie, or Joan jackets with a classic slip dress, cami, and board shorts combo, or laid-back overalls. Rest assured knowing that reaching for a throwback look won’t add to the global climate change crisis with carbon-neutral pieces designed to keep the circular lifecycle going.

The Well-Tailored

The longlines and impeccably shaped shoulders and bodices of the not-so-distant Y2K era have reappeared. You may have become used to wearing hoodies and tracksuits while moseying around your apartment, but throwing a well-tailored blazer atop monochromatic ‘chill-only’ attire has become fully acceptable again.

Minimalists everywhere have probably heard of Vetta Capsule at one point in their downsizing and decluttering. For those who don’t know, the functionality-first brand is known for helping consumers build sleek capsule wardrobes. Ready-to-wear capsules can be purchased together, or items can be handpicked at random. The City Capsule features the wide-leg trousers and crisp button-downs a 2000s babe could ever dream of, but these notable staples are made using less water thanks to the use of biodegradable Tencel. If you really wanted to take advantage of the fashion cycle to re-live all of your nostalgic days, Vetta’s Edgy Capsule brings drama and versatility to traditional, clean-cut silhouettes.

Find sleek pants and blazers at the GAP of sustainable fashion, Everlane. Celebrate loose, tailored fits hallmarked by the ‘80s (and early ‘90s) with releases named after the decade. With transparent pricing and ethical factory partnerships, don’t let the summer get away from you before you get the chance to tuck an oversized graphic tee into a sharp-looking drape pant, a look to be adorned with a square-toe heel, fisherman sandals, or platform sneaker.

It’s not too late to stock up on your wardrobe. Instead of turning to the ZARAs, TopShops, and Urban Outfitters types, don’t be afraid to give ethical fashion brands a try. Consult The Good Trade, The Quarterrican (now known as Sustainable Queer), and Sustainably Chic for consistent style guides. Visit FashionRevolution.org to learn more and stay up-to-date on industry happenings and initiatives.

Most folks assume sustainable fashion consists of frumpy styles or linen-only pieces. However, sustainable fashion is not just trendy, but it’s also responsible. Becoming part of the movement is more about knowing where to shop, how to filter your search, what brands to follow, and the keywords to spot. You don’t have to break the bank either. Eco-focused brands also have seasonal sales and promotions, and thrifting is a great way to build a more mindful wardrobe on a budget while still giving clothes new life.

April is a month that raises awareness for several social issues. With Earth Day on the 22nd, sustainability becomes a main selling point for large and small businesses alike. Thanks to the annual observation and outcry for earth justice, 69 million tons of discarded food and over 29 million pieces of plastic have been removed from the ocean.

This is also a time we are reminded of the mass atrocities committed by the fashion industry during Fashion Revolution Week. However, being kind to our earth (and each other) is a conversation that extends beyond one day of the year or week. According to the World Health Organization (WHO), medical waste has skyrocketed to nearly 96 tons of waste, with an estimated 3 tons of waste soon to come due to COVID-19 and the improper disposal of masks as well as PPE; most of those 3 tons are presumed to be non-infectious and comprised of plastic. With COVID impacting us all in various ways, together, we can do our part to care for the planet now that the pandemic has effectively exposed the complete disregard for Earth and its ecosystems. Here’s how to make a difference, even after Earth Day:

1. Don’t Let Your Scraps Go to Waste

25 million tons of food were recovered in 2018. As the Environmental Protection Agency estimates, that was all due in part to composting. Composting is a common gardening and farming practice that improves the properties and fertility of soil. Through the combination of organic waste, composting can reduce costs associated with traditional soil and water usage, air pollution, pesticides, chemical fertilizers, and agricultural gains. The EPA notes that compost can be created with biodegradable materials such as yard trimmings, wood chips, food scraps, and more to accelerate growth. They also report that the natural and harmless process breaks down contaminants and reduces methane with the repurposing of coffee grounds and other biodegradable materials.

With propagating and indoor gardening becoming more popular as a result of the pandemic, several eco-friendly brands are democratizing the way everyday people can compost right from their homes. Some landlords are required to have residents participate in building-wide composting mandates. However, for those who want to learn and start composting on their own, Seed & Sprout Co. is an Australian eco-luxury brand providing plastic-free and ethically sourced bundles. Their matte, rust-resistant Composting Bin is available in two earth-inspired colors that are neutral and compact enough to decorate your kitchen or fit in your freezer. With a charcoal air filter and easy care instructions, Seed & Sprout makes the transition to saving your scraps (and to green living) an effortless one with all the bells and whistles you could need to maintain your commitment to food recovery.

2. Upgrade Your Lunch

In corners all over the world, workers are being forced back into the office after more than 18 months of working from home. Although production rates improved with shelter-in-place orders, some employees face termination if they don’t return to the office, whether they’re considered essential or not. Going back to the office not only results in more concerns for employees and those with families, but it also results in higher expenses due to mid-day breaks. Workers could be dishing out more of their savings or paychecks with daily breakfast and lunch orders.

Reduce your dining waste by bringing your own lunch in Seed & Sprout’s Crunchbox Set. For kids and adults alike, the food-grade stainless steel lunchbox is leak-proof and comes equipped with segregated portions. You could use a sleek eco-box for food prep or bring your favorite comfort cuisine to work. The lidded pots could also be used to pre-pack snacks, dips, and sides to accompany a ten-minute side convo. Seed & Sprout Co.’s modern and plastic-free take on the schoolyard lunch bag is dishwasher-safe with FDA-approved components. This swap is kind to the planet, your wallet, and it certainly reduces any risks or trash that may arise with food preparations when eating out. Even when going out to eat for a special occasion, you could bring bamboo utensils and other conscious sets to safeguard their health while making it a priority to limit litter or landfill fodder when taking your food to-go.

3. Don’t Trash Your Mask

Data from the Kaiser Family Foundation and CDC verify that Hispanic, Black, Indigenous, and AAPI folks suffered higher cases, hospitalization, and death rates early on in the pandemic, with ongoing surges throughout. The lack of proper infrastructure, health equity, affordable housing among food deserts, and increased stress, COVID has been proven to impact communities of color significantly more than their white counterparts, both during the height of the pandemic and as of present-day. Although the world is rapidly trying to enter a post-COVID era, immunocompromised individuals and essential workers will more than likely keep mask-wearing alive.

You might have seen disposable masks splayed across the sunburnt pavement of parking lots. Black-owned business, Henry Masks, is single-handedly tackling the disproportionate effects of COVID and medical waste by making accessibility to masks easier for people of color. Henry Masks capitalized on the subscription service boom by offering a variety of stylish, reusable, washable, filtered two and four-pack masks that can be delivered every one or two months. Extenders support those with ear sensitivities, and lanyards aid the forgetful or unorganized. Custom and bulk ordering of supplies, masks for families, and artistic types are also viable options. As a subscriber of the top-rated BOB myself, I highly recommend their Minimalist 4-Pack for simple and laid-back personalities.

From panic buying and shortages to inflation and contradicting mandates, COVID has left a mark on our collective experience like the Great Depression left its mark on the era’s generations. Many of us focus more on staying stocked up with disinfectants, gas, and ample snacks now more than ever, just to ensure we’re not a so-called “have-not”. However, we must keep our planet in mind in the unnerving race for survival and the swift rush to establish a “new” normal.

In 2017, I was trying to understand why I was having horrible allergic reactions to beauty and skincare products. Along with eliminating certain foods from my diet and swapping out chemical-ridden household cleaners, I started digging deep into the origins of my skincare and beauty products. As a fem-presenting, black consumer, what I discovered was rather alarming. It actually led me to ask: Are “green” products safer for racialized consumers?

Short Answer: Yes

The Environmental Working Group (EWG) is a nonprofit organization working to uncover toxins in cosmetics. EWG's Skin Deep database ranks personal care products on a low-to-high hazardous scale. When adding products marketed specifically to Black women and people to their Skin Deep database, Eco Salon reports that around one in twelve of 1,177 products received a “highly hazardous” ranking by EWG.

From relaxers to cosmetics and sunscreen-infused products, EWG's report suggests there's an underwhelming amount of healthy products available to Black women and people. Some of the most concerning ingredients include parabens, synthetic fragrances, and those that release formaldehyde. These ingredients can cause cancer, asthma, headaches, dizziness, eye and skin irritation, and even hormonal disruption.

The Real-Life Implications

Naturally, learning about these hazards was shocking. I thought it’s bad enough that black consumers are regularly pandered to and yet are rarely considered, but now racialized people have added health and safety concerns to worry about, too?

Finding this information out helped with my health and healing journey. Putting the pieces together, it all started to make sense. I found that my health struggles subsided more when I swapped out products with toxic ingredients for those that were clean, natural, green, and organic. Once I learned more about what made up the products I used on a daily basis in 2016-2017, I slowly transitioned to clean/green beauty to hopefully never look back. Thankfully, I saw a huge improvement in my skin with less irritation overall. It wouldn’t surprise me if news about a class-action lawsuit were to come out in a couple of years, featuring Black consumers and the negligence of chemical regulation that impacts us.

The Cons of Going Green

It’s not all rainbows and butterflies shifting to “clean” or “green” beauty, though. Issues regarding limited shade ranges for complexion products are starting to be addressed within common beauty realms; however, it should be noted that this flies more under the radar in the non-toxic beauty space. The problem showcases just how much darker, diverse, and inclusive shades are still an afterthought. Shade range diversity, or lack thereof, forces most to seek out market alternatives that shelve dangerous products. Alternatives provide diverse color ranges and affordable price points, so as with anything, there are pros and cons.

With boycotts and demands for more inclusivity, organic or plant-based brands run the risk of pandering to acquire the all-mighty and powerful Black dollar. Thus, once again, leaving the burden to fall squarely on Black people and consumers to choose between the lesser of two evils. And, once again, leaving Black people to decipher between allied and well-intentioned ventures, or those simply out for profit and greed.

Dear Friends,

Wellness is more than skin deep. After the summer of 2020, Black History Month is shining a light on how there’s a lot more to consider when it comes to "self-care" for a melanated person. As frequently recommended in the ACP archives, I decided to take my own advice and alter my self-care routine to protect my peace during Black History Month.

I recently picked up the Morgan Harper Nichols playing cards made in collaboration with Darling Media. It was a fun activity I’ve been wanting to do for myself for a while now, as I wanted to deviate from my normal stream-of-consciousness journaling practice. It was a lighthearted way to introduce play into my routine, and those tiny pieces of witty art have quickly become a new favorite.

Once I was feeling self-actualized and grateful for my journey, I thought to follow up the activity with a movie. I typically opt for a sci-fi or action-comedy movie to unwind. However, when I logged on to browse new releases, the list of historical black movies was endless. They were movies that weren’t otherwise available throughout the year. Movies that, for the most part, are actually black trauma porn. Although some pieces intrigued me, I made the conscious decision to avoid these life-like depictions of preferential abuse and social negligence. As someone who has lived that reality in depth, unironically and casually choosing to view these stories of struggle for “entertainment” just didn’t jive well with my spirit.

The dreadful scroll through memoirs and recollections of perseverance got me questioning why any black person would watch these movies. Were they even made for us? If not, are those who need to watch them watching them at all? Who thinks we’re snuggling up with a bowl of popcorn to snicker and gawk at our collective agony? If made for us, why would we as a people consume something that would more than likely re-traumatize us? Even if a historical piece, why aren’t there content warnings for us?

The media may let those with trauma down, but there are ways we can care for ourselves. As I did in that moment, we can choose to engage with something other than trauma and the exploitation of trauma—thank you, Don’t Look Up! We can engage in a powerful rendition of self-care, so here are a few reasons why you may want to adjust your self-care routine to consider your traumas:

To Avoid Re-Traumatization

Trauma-informed (self) care is a trauma-informed approach to care that recognizes trauma and how it can affect people and groups, recognizing the signs of trauma, having a system that can respond to trauma, and resisting re-traumatization. It’s not about feeling ashamed of the feelings or concerns that come up for you. It’s about dealing with them in healthy ways that better aid with your recovery, care, and response. Where self-care is about empowering one’s sense of self through healthy and restorative habits, trauma-informed self-care is about preserving your overall well-being by being mindful of your injuries and taking a treatment-focused, safety-first approach.

For example, I usually stay away from any piece of media, content, or art with racial themes and undertones during Black History Month. I specifically avoid films attempting to reflect the edge lord humor of years past, but are really just trauma porn hiding in plain sight. Following along with the practice, I was aware of my triggers in that moment and where they stemmed from. I was aware of how I would be triggered—i.e., the movies’ talking points and plots that would’ve ignited those triggers—and made a plan to avoid both my triggers and the domino effect of their onset.

Setting boundaries with the content (or anything else) you consume is another way to practice trauma-informed self-care. It’s a practice called conscious consumption, and as in my case, it can help you gauge your capacity and emotional bandwidth. It focuses more on the quality and impact of what you take in. Applied in conjunction with trauma-informed care, it can formulate a dynamic and almost bulletproof self-care routine. A person can quickly check in with their inner guide to analyze their habits, environment, stimuli, and state of being to choose better for themselves when observing both practices as mutually inclusive. A regular ritual can lead to heightened situational awareness, self-awareness, emotional safety and regulation, incredible self-advocacy, as well as actionable discernment and self-nurturance that doesn’t require additional or inflammatory wounds.

To Build Better Self-Trust

There’s no pressure to care for yourself in the ‘right’ way if you’re following the lifelong guide that is your intuition. Trauma-informed self-care is all about connecting with your intuition, as well as your healthcare providers. You have to be honest with yourself and where you find yourself—i.e., physically, emotionally, mentally, etc.

If you have trouble with food or were ridiculed at an early age about your eating habits, an act of trauma-informed care (as far as media goes) may look like you following that inner voice telling you to skip that date with your favorite weekly television show. Why? Because it might garner a negative response in relation to food or send you into an unexpected shame spiral. Once you find another activity that better suits your needs, you may want to follow up with your therapist to tell them why you felt as though you would be triggered watching that show. You would’ve not only avoided re-traumatization in that moment, but you would’ve also effectively communicated to your inner child, “I’m here. I care. I’m listening. I love you, and I’m protecting you.”

That’s just one example of how the remnants of trauma can sneak up on you. You could be going about life without a single care in the world, with the belief that everything’s “fine” or all that “bad stuff” is behind you. Heart and mind healed; however, your body stores and remembers it all. Tuning into your gut—your body—in those moments can give you clues about your psyche, or how your wounds may be impacting you or your life on a subconscious level. It may be the thing that gets you to open up and ask for help, or seek a more rigorous care plan with the help of professionals.

Although it can be practiced as a monthly or weekly ritual, self-care is a daily activity. We do it without noticing, and as you would exercise a muscle, practicing it in response to your traumas (or lived experiences) can morph into a daily habit too.

To Fully Embrace Your Humanity

Understanding your wounds and how to treat them according to your needs lends room for more honest care and expression. Sink further into relaxation knowing the world isn’t over if you respond to a trigger instinctively, rather than logically or in a healthy manner. At the end of the day, you’re still human; to err is to be human.

As humans, we have a wide range of emotions and express them in a variety of ways. We more often than not have been wounded in a variety of ways, too. When you engage in trauma-informed self-care, you are allowing yourself to open up to all the ways you could be a kind and loving self-parent or nurturer. You give yourself the grace to understand where your wounds stem from, how to better prepare or react, and how to effectively set boundaries with yourself, others, your diet, habits, devices, and social media.

After all, self-care practices are lessons of self-love put into action. So keep learning how to explore your inner-most layers and how to keep evolving as a well-balanced human.

Dare to embrace your humanity,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers

Dear Friends,

There are a million reasons to be stressed these days, especially in the throes of a world recovering from a global pandemic. When manifesting the life of your dreams or winding down after a full day’s work, typically, you want to avoid the overwhelm of those nagging ‘what-ifs’. As much as spiritual folks like to lean on meditating and journaling, sometimes writing it out or a brow-beaten mindfulness practice just isn’t enough. Even though your self-care toolkit may be looking a little bit sparse right now, there are plenty of shiny new tools for you to explore.

1. Listen to Positive Affirmations

Affirmation Pod by Josie Ong is my go-to resource for soothing, self-love affirmations. When she says they are affirmations for every season of life, she’s not lying. “Good Things Are Coming” doubles as a manifesting agent and an emotional regulation aid. To keep cool as a cucumber, add its sister episode, “Amazing Opportunities Are Coming,” to your queue. The combination, I must say, is perfect for staying in positive-thinking mode.

If you really want to commit to living your best life, then chase the first two recs with “Affirmations for Building Momentum” to stay connected to your visualizations. However, if you’re looking for a quickie, “Breathwork and Affirmations to Start Your Day” is the lemon water of affirmations. Trust me, you’ll sink into your body and feel the day’s stress melt away.

We make affirmations, focused on self-healers and society’s healers:

The Affirmed Healer

An affirmation podcast pouring back into society’s healers, self-healers, changemakers, and generational curse breakers with affirmation meditations, sound baths, energy clearings, and thoughts about the healing journey.

2. Use Music to Channel Your Getaway

Your great escape is only just one tune away. Music heals the soul and consoles us in our most notable moments of life. Outside of a good vibe, choosing a few songs to listen to while starting your day can transport you to your stress-free desired reality. The tunes you pick can be used as a vehicle to channel how you would feel when you finally achieve your goals.

Use your playlist to help (re)awaken your imagination and open your third eye so you can better connect with your innate nature, visualize your future accomplishments, and ease into a meditative state. As you listen in or sing along, be sure to paint your world with peaceful scenes and desired solutions or outcomes. Some say using music in this way, as an aid for stress relief and manifestation, allows you to really sit in your feelings more than if you were to try doing so in silence.

Listen to our curated playlist to shift the energy:

3. Honor Your Triggers

The best way to stay ahead of your stress and manifest from a place of higher consciousness is to be aware of your triggers. Running from them or engaging in spiritual bypassing won’t do you any favors. Knowing what and why a fear or blockage is coming up for you can help you source appropriate solutions to address your actual needs, such as challenging your ego or writing one sentence of that very important email you’re anxious about sending in the morning.

Adjusting your habits and methods is key to staying stress-less and in the flow of abundance. Switch out your affirmations whenever you need to or find a more authentic way to call in your desires. Getting to know yourself, your triggers and challenges can help you level up if you allow them to.

So the next time you start to feel the walls caving in, remember you have these tools in your self-care toolkit. Don’t be afraid to connect with your inner witch or warlock to work some calm, clarity, and confidence back into your life.

Trust where your energy takes you,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers

100% Pure is a clean beauty brand based out of Berkeley, California, that’s committed to being gluten-free, natural, and vegan. They make fruit-died and plant-based makeup, haircare, bodycare, and skincare that directly shows how green beauty can be. For consumers who have struggled to find chemical-free, staple products, 100% Pure fills that void with rice and fruit-based products.

Offering a cleanser, exfoliator, moisture mask, and body scrub, the 100% Pure Cocoa skincare line is primarily coconut and cocoa ingredients; the combination is not only nourishing but also calming and gentle to sensitive skin. But is it worth the pretty penny? Here’s everything you need to know about their Cocoa Cream Cleanser and Cocoa Bean Facial Scrub if you’re a conscious consumer wanting to give it a try:

The Basics

First things first: Those with allergies or acne-prone skin are advised to check product safety ratings before trying anything new. That’s where EWG’s Skin Deep database comes in. If you’re not familiar with it already, the Environmental Working Group (EWG) is a nonprofit organization dedicated to human health and environmental protection. Their database provides a detailed breakdown of ingredient safety, helping consumers make informed decisions about the products they buy and use.

Products that use organic, plant-based ingredients are some of the best for sensitive skin. As a general rule of thumb, it’s best to avoid ingredients with long, unpronounceable chemical names as they often cause irritation. In addition to this guideline, EWG’s Skin Deep database will teach you the other sneaky ingredients to avoid. Its hazard ratings highlight the risks of ingredients, such as the potential for cancer, allergic reactions, or even developmental concerns. For hyper-sensitive people, it’s a great tool to make sure the products you use are gentle and safe for your skin, whether brands maintain their original formulas or roll out “new and improved” collections.

Like many brands focusing on social good and sustainability, companies sometimes update their formulas to stay competitive. That’s what makes the Skin Deep database so special—you can stay vigilant as a consumer and regularly check product ingredients to make sure safety and quality haven’t been compromised.

One thing to note is that these specific products aren’t listed on the EWG database yet, but many other 100% Pure products rank very low (around a 1 on average), meaning they’re considered low-hazard. Before you spend a pretty penny, you can rest knowing that 100% Pure has consistently delivered hypoallergenic products with recognizable, non-toxic ingredients. Who doesn’t want that?

The Brand

Pros

Their Ingredients: Their products don’t contain any unnecessary additives, perfumes, or chemicals, which keeps consumers with sensitive skin coming back—their clean, natural ingredients provide peace of mind.

Their Packaging: 100% Pure products arrive in standard recyclable packages. Their protective packing peanuts are biodegradable, and items tend to be individually wrapped in recyclable or biodegradable containers. They really think through every part of the shopping experience to keep their brand plant-based and sustainable.

Their Customer Service: Their stores also give such a wonderful spa-like experience. It’s not just about buying products; it feels like self-care every time you visit.

Cons

Their Shade Range: As much as some may love 100% Pure, we have to be honest: like many clean beauty brands, they need to do better with the range of their complexion products. 100% Pure has limited shade ranges that still leave many melanated folks out.

Their SPF Options: Products like their BB cream and older tinted moisturizers oxidized badly on deeper skin tones, making them look ashy. Some of their foundations have improved, but there’s still room for more shades and undertones. They also used to include SPF in their tinted moisturizers, but not anymore. Now, SPF is a separate product, which can cause flashback issues for people with darker skin tones because of the zinc content.

Brands really need to remember: melanin-rich skin is not (and should not) be an afterthought!

The 100% Pure Cocoa Cream Cleanser

100% Pure cleansers are some of the best in the green beauty space (in our humble opinion). Their Eucalyptus Seafoam Facial Cleanser1 was one of the first to solidify the fruit and veggie-based brand; it didn’t strip consumers of their natural oils while cleansing, which is a consistent pro of 100% Pure cleansers that consumers continue to rave about. It’s this kind of reliability that makes 100% Pure’s cleansers beloved and highly sought after, even with the release of new collections. Their Cocoa Cream Facial Cleanser was no different. Here’s what we loved about it:

• Price & Packaging: The cleanser is priced at $30, and there’s a subscription option for 15% off. It’s a rich, creamy face cleanser that softens skin and lifts away impurities with organic Ecuadorian cocoa and gentle plant-based ingredients.

• Texture & Smell: The texture is smooth and silky—definitely a decadent experience. The cleanser has a faint chocolatey scent with a hint of vanilla, which makes it feel like a real treat for your skin.

• Effectiveness: The Cocoa Cream Cleanser is a hydrating cleanser that works well for all skin types, especially for those with dry skin or those who live in drier climates. It’s also perfect for sensitive skin because it doesn’t strip or irritate, which is a must if you’re using it twice a day as recommended.

• Skin Tone Improvement: For those who deal with discoloration and/or post-rash hyperpigmentation, this cleanser will help reduce redness and even out your skin tone, leaving you with a “glow-from-within” hue over time.

Is it Worth It?: If you’re looking for a gentle, natural skincare routine that can handle sensitive skin and help with uneven skin tone, we highly recommend giving 100% Pure’s Cocoa Cream Cleanser a try. It’s usually sold out, but it’s 100% worth it.

The 100% Pure Cocoa Bean Facial Scrub

When it comes to exfoliators, 100% Pure has had plenty of cult favorites over the years. For example, their Red Wine Resveratrol Scrub and Acai Pulp Facial Scrub were always sold out. Unfortunately, the Red Wine Scrub, which also doubled as a face mask, is no longer sold, although we’re still hoping they’ll bring it back one day. They managed to strike gold again with their Cocoa Bean Facial Scrub. Meeting clean beauty standards, here’s what’s been making it such a win:

• Price & Packaging: $38 can seem a little pricey for the size when you first look at the scrub online. However, it lasts quite a long time. It comes in a clear, compact, squeezable bottle, which helps you see how much product you’ve used. A little goes a long way with this facial smoother—seriously, all you need is a pea-sized amount per use—and the results are well worth it.

• Texture & Smell: This facial scrub is nutrient-dense and gently polishes the skin while nourishing with vitamin E. The scrub has a beautiful texture—you can actually see the cacao nibs in it. It doesn’t lather, and it leaves a soft, satin-like finish without stripping your skin’s natural oils. It feels hydrated, not greasy or overly dry. Honestly, your skin will feel silky smooth after every use. And the scent? It’s absolutely divine. Your senses will be engaged with soft chocolate-honey notes, and the body scrub version (Cocoa Coffee Body Scrub, $38) might be an even creamier, larger treat for the skin.

• Effectiveness: If your skin naturally loves ingredients like cocoa, coconut, shea butter, and vitamin E, this formula will feel like it was made for you. Using a pea-sized amount (which is plenty), it gently polishes away bumps, flakes, and dullness. 100% Pure uses high-quality, fair-trade Ecuadorian cacao, packed with antioxidants and natural caffeine, which helps reduce redness and promote a glowy complexion.

Is it Worth It?: In our opinion, the Cocoa Bean Facial Scrub is definitely worth it. The scrub is natural, vegan, cruelty-free, and gluten-free—big wins all around. Plus, if you catch it during a sale, you can snag it for $19 or even cheaper with a subscription! If you really want to save, you can purchase the Body Scrub for multipurpose use on your face.

Going Forward

Our hope for the future is that 100% Pure doesn’t discontinue this line! OG supporters were heartbroken over the loss of their Mint Seafoam Cleanser, which was a godsend for hormonal acne sufferers. Ideally, we’d love to see them expand this Cocoa line with a matching day and night cream. Their toners are pretty amazing, so a full Cocoa skincare routine with a Cocoa Toner would be chef’s kiss perfection.

Is 100% Pure Worth It?

With the “clean girl” aesthetic on the rise, the green beauty industry is booming. Consumers have more options than ever before, as competitors claim to be the cleanest, safest, and kindest to all skin types and the planet. Some of these conscious brands are just getting started and still have to smooth out the edges, so it’s important to keep in mind that they’re still marketing and “selling” a product for profit. Just like with ethical fashion, responsible skincare and beauty brands tend to be more expensive; consumers can still be mindful of their wallets as the demand for dirty-free beauty grows by shopping seasonally, minimally, and according to their current skin needs.

Some of 100% Pure’s affordable competitors, like Cocokind and Pacifica, are more accessible and offer a similar plant-based profile. Derma E and Eadem mirrors 100% Pure’s price range while providing cruelty-free products that are inclusive of BIPOC needs. To find credible, vetted brands and products, Credo Beauty and EWG’s Verified database are viable resources.

Overall, we love that 100% Pure’s skincare is gentle yet effective. After building their products into your routine, your skin will feel radiant and healthy without using microdermabrasion or microneedling techniques. Despite a few critiques, we highly recommend 100% Pure—especially for those with sensitive skin who need gentle, nourishing products. We hope they continue to grow, expand their complexion ranges, and hold onto their amazing core skincare lines without letting fleeting trends dictate too much change. If you’re looking for a toxic-free, trustworthy brand that delivers real results, 100% Pure is definitely worth checking out.

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The act of conscious consumption is but a branch of mindful living that demands personal responsibility. So what is it, what does it mean? Conscious consumption can be defined as “a social movement that is based around increased awareness of the impact of purchasing decisions on the environment and the consumer’s health and life in general. It is also concerned with the effects of media and advertising on consumers” (Swap-O-Matic.com and The Momentum).

With changemakers on the rise everywhere, it’s becoming clear that the catch-all term extends far beyond being just a social activist or entrepreneur. The term flawlessly summarizes communities and individuals who are making intentional living a priority, even if at a slow, subtle pace. But what do you do when you’re just starting as an active participant in the mindful movement? Well, we invite you to refer to this guide to help changemakers everywhere consume and create wisely and with care:

1. Mind Your Headspace

Taking care of your headspace means monitoring your thoughts, your ego, your inner saboteur, your conditioning, and your unconscious bias. Can you tell the difference between all of them? Get to know the inner workings of your thought patterns so you know how to challenge, nurture, or keep them in check.

Are your thoughts kind? What about the stories you tell yourself? How do your ego, wounds, and bias want you to respond to discomfort and other pressing situations? As they say, perception is reality. Do your best to ensure your perception is as grounded in reality as it can be, not based on your wounds or inherited beliefs. Affirmations, journaling, meditating, moving your body, and getting out in nature are all low-risk resources if they’re available to you. Therapy, hypnosis, and coaching are additional resources that can double as a viable support system as well. Being proactive about your mental health is a gateway to peace. It’s the first step to understanding the gravity of what you take in and surround yourself with.

2. Mind Your Boundaries

Protect your energy, in real life and online. The digital age, depending on how you interact with it, can leave the door open to prying eyes and platforms that thrive off of infinite scrolling. Using trackers like Screen Time or connecting with conscious tools and communities like Brick: Digital Wellness can help you identify when and where your digital bounds shouldn't be crossed. If you can’t seem to stop scrolling or whipping out your phone to fill the awkward silence, you can enter Brick Mode throughout the day or when with loved ones as a reminder to be present in the moment, rather than blurring the lines of privacy for the sake of connecting with an audience.

Unfortunately, the internet does run on self-exploitation, so it’s really up to you to determine what in your life is sacred and what can be broadcast on immortal chat forms. Be mindful that some will respect how you share your energy or curate a community online, and others may feel entitled to all of you or judge what you don’t share. This begs the question: Can boundaries and social media exist and/or coexist? Can privacy exist and/or coexist in the digital age and with the prominence of social media?

3. Mind Your Time

Outside of scrolling multiple feeds to fill the void of boredom, minding your time means being thoughtful of how you spend your days as a whole. For example, are you working a dead-end job that you absolutely despise? There’s a phenomenal movement occurring around the world right now, which happens to be an unexpected byproduct of the COVID-19 pandemic, coined as The Great Resignation.

This movement embodies the concept of conscious consumption in terms of how it’s inspiring people all over the globe to question how they’ve been using their time to line the pockets of corporate fat cats, in addition to how they’ve been duped to strive for goals that exist only outside of themselves. With the last year and a half of our lives being spent indoors, the overabundance of time has been a gift to the working class everywhere. Time to breathe, to live, to heal; time to reevaluate cost-saving career options and online monetization; time to rediscover themselves and what they’d really rather be doing with their days.

We challenge you to do the same! Think about how you’re spending your time and energy daily. Is it actually benefiting you in the long run or pouring into the life you’d like to build? Is it actually fulfilling you?

We challenge you from here on out to use your time wisely. Use it to consider how to not only get out of the rat race and matrix but also how to get back to living out your legacy-building purpose altogether.

4. Mind Your Media

This especially goes for BIPOC, LGBTQIA+, sexual assault and abuse survivors, disabled, highly sensitive, and other disenfranchised folks. The media you consume may not have your best interests at heart. The common tropes, mangled takes on mental health, whitewashed history, and storytelling could find you consuming trauma and/or covert macro/microaggressions that retraumatize or stigmatize you.

Content Creator Jess of Bowties & Books explored how profitable trauma porn is and how consuming the genre happens on a regular basis with modern-day media. Activist-led channel, The Root, also explains how reporting on racial inequities—which can also be expanded to include the traumas associated with “otherizing” folks—is a double-edged sword. Staying informed about worldwide happenings as well as the realities of marginalization is important for change to occur, but it should also be noted that the circulation of said images and multimedia products also desensitizes the human race to these issues over time.

So, it’s not just what you eat or share online. Conscious consumption is a facet of self-care that also extends to the media you take in, share, and create. The possibility of you and/or others being triggered, traumatized, or retraumatized is all things to be mindful of when putting on your favorite TV show to end the day, penciling in that movie date to escape the week’s heaviness, or publishing your rendition of a viral skit that’s culturally appropriating. We all bear the burden to mind our impact and intake now.

5. Mind Your Idols

True Crime Content Creator & Podcaster Bailey Sarian would say, “Get better idols.” However, we would like to challenge you to question why idolizing another imperfect human being is even necessary. The internet is a place where people can be sainted and/or vilified in a matter of seconds. This could be due to the exposure or self-reporting of gross misconduct, racism, and abuse of influence/power, or because the masses impart an unconscious bias that holds another imperfect human being to ungodly standards.

This makes exposés a tough pill to swallow because the parasocial nature of social media friends, communities, relationships, and cult-like followings makes it nearly impossible to report or hold those in power or those with influence accountable. It’s even harder for those with influence and power to hold themselves accountable when their base becomes more like an echo chamber for toxic behavior than one of compassionate, impartial observers. With corporations operating more often than not like people in the United States, one could say this line of thinking applies to businesses and service providers as well.

However, when we remember that we are all equally flawed human beings, it’s not as jarring to hear that another has behaved as such. In fact, it becomes easier to:

1. Extend compassion where needed

2. Decide for yourself who and what kind of behavior you support

3. Allow people the room to grow

Remember that you have the right to buycott, boycott, and demand better of service providers, businesses, creators, or prominent figures in society. They’re all human beings — or, in some cases, run by them — who will not only mess up from time to time but are also capable of evolving if they want to. So do your best to reserve judgment without enabling bad behavior, remain neutral, release expectations, and don’t rely on the court of public opinion to draw your own conclusions.

6. Mind Your Ingredients

Allergies, health scares, and increased infertility rates — the contents of your food and household products can harbor secret resentment. As within, so without is a mantra that usually references the stars’ effect on one’s affairs, but it works here, too. Reviewing your ingredients is more than just food deep. I’m talking about paying attention to the contaminants that are in your everyday haircare, skincare, beauty, hygiene, and cleaning products, as well as the more than 80 contaminants that could be in your drinking water.

If available to you, acquiring a water distiller or shower filter from H2O Labs can offer you some much-needed peace of mind. Also, be on the lookout for triclosan, aluminum, petroleum, pesticides, lead, phthalates, parabens, sulfates, silicones, and other harsh chemicals. Instead, do look for: non-GMO, organic, cruelty-free, pesticide-free, PETA-approved, plant-based, pet-safe, sustainably or ethically-made labels. Mind your fabrics and their imprints, too.

Shop small and local to not only increase your chances of connecting with well-informed sellers and growers but also to send the message that quality comes before profit. Be mindful that greenwashing is a common tactic used in marketing to trick consumers into buying products that aren’t actually manufactured or sourced using sustainable practices. A quick Google search will pull up articles by Earth911, The Guardian, and Medium.com that point out how you can recognize greenwashing before placing another order to restock your cabinet. I know, determining the validity and toxicity of your favorite things is definitely a learning curve. Detailed lists, like those created by Truth in Advertising, can help you stay informed about which companies have been accused of greenwashing and selling harmful products.

7. Mind Your Money

Depending on where you’re located, your society may operate on mass overconsumption. It’s hard to escape the seasonal emotional manipulation that accompanies marketing. There’s an enormous amount of pressure to participate in and uphold profit-driven traditions.

Realizing how much you purchase, who you’re purchasing from as well as the utility, contents, and durability of your purchases is one thing. Investigating where your money goes, how often you consume as well as the value of your spending is a completely different topic. For example, do you think about how much the garment worker who made your affordable fast-fashion top got paid? Or, what your particular banking institution invests in? Or, what intersectional justice initiatives your favorite outlet is working to address or follow through with? Or, if your purchase feeds the wealth gap, a local farmer, or the family of a small business owner?

Your hard-earned dollar holds astounding voting power. As the consumer, you yield incredible power to change within the marketplace. It may mean you take on more responsibility, yes. It may also mean you get to have a say — you have the power to affect change — by investing in the world and the future you want to see.

Takeaways

Being a conscious consumer is not something to be feared or overthought. Apps like Buycott, Good on You, and progressive publications like The Good Trade share shopping guides for beginners as well as those evolving with the movement. Blogs like Sustainably Chic, Sustainable Queer, and The Honest Consumer can also help you stay informed about responsible fashion and organic lifestyle products. No matter where you find yourself, there are endless resources to help you get started, some of which are housed in our resource library for those moments when all you have are questions.

For all the beginners out there, take it day by day. Give yourself the grace and time to unlearn habits rooted in immediate gratification. Becoming a more thoughtful consumer and/or creator is truly more about progress than it is perfection. Don’t be afraid to ask questions or educate yourself on how to mind what you keep, and to enforce a self-care habit that mirrors the state of our collective well-being.

Dear Friends,

With more people learning about the unprecedented amount of contaminants and chemicals in our food, as well as the environmental injustices related to cattle farming, veganism has become all the rage. Some commit to the lifestyle out of love for our furry and conscious friends, while others opt in for health or dietary restrictions. Whatever the reason is for you, you may want to weigh the pros and cons; hence, why you’re here. There’s a slew of things I wish I had known before taking the plunge, and thus, making oat milk and avo toast diet staples. Here’s what to consider if you’re looking to go vegan (as told by a second-year vegan):

1. Veganism is not for everyone.

Vegans get a bad rap for shaming or trying to force others into their “altruistic” diet. There are many articles out there that aspiring vegans will run into that completely skew the facts about animal-derived foods. It can make researching confusing and the decision to commit inauthentic or ill-informed. If you find yourself running across scolding, clickbait-y opinion pieces, keep in mind that veganism is not for everybody (and you might be that body). Certain health conditions, allergies, appetites, bodies, lifestyles, income levels, geographic locations, and unequal access to affordable produce may not always allow for veganism…. and that is okay. It’s not to say one can’t test the waters by going plant-based once or twice a week, but it’s nothing to be ashamed of if you aren’t able or willing to forcibly limit your dietary needs.

2. It’s okay to go slow… VERY slow.

It’s far too often when asked how they became vegan, veggie veterans will follow up with somber tales about the plethora of emotionally moving documentaries that inspired them to quit meat and dairy cold turkey. Don’t get me wrong, these films are absolutely needed to expose the mistreatment and exploitation of animals within the animal agriculture industry for change, justice, and institutional reform to occur.

If I’m being completely honest and transparent here, however, my vegan journey really started in 2017 with the removal of meats and dairy, followed by a long reign of pescetarianism and routine egg-laden breakfasts, to finally arrive at tofu scrambles in 2019. The sheer willpower it takes to cut out animal proteins and byproducts is undoubtedly admirable, but again, not applicable for everyone.

Cutting out foods slowly over time can help you adjust to modified recipes and rip off the veil to see how limited your options really are, especially when joining family and friends at that bougie hot spot that’s too exclusive of vegans and vegetarians for their own good. Take it all at your own pace. There’s no rush or pressure to be the best, most perfect herbivore right out of the gate.

3. Research beyond all measure.

Yes, this is piggybacking off of the first consideration. It’s mentioned again because it’s worth noting and exploring. Research and preparation play a huge role in how long one commits to the legume life or how desperately one tries to revert back to homemade mashed potatoes, casserole, pasta, and high-protein dinner recipes. The more you feel prepared for the journey or understand how it’ll affect you, the more natural the transition and the more rewarding the experience will be. It’s very important for the reasons mentioned earlier to check with a dietitian, nutritionist, your primary care doctor, and yourself to make sure the diet won’t be a hindrance or intolerable for you. Because it’s also a lifestyle, you’ll want to familiarize yourself with vegan brands and products. This means shopping for vegan and cruelty-free makeup, skincare, clothes, hygiene, household, cleaning, and medicinal products. It is and can be a fruitful commitment to your health and toxic-free living, but it all comes down to how willing and ready you are to do the work and keep yourself informed.

4. Alternatives are not automatically healthy.

Some people have this idea that going vegan means eating a bunny diet or bland snacks. *Knock knock* Hello, yes: vegan junk food is a thing. With simple swaps, veggie lovers can eat just as well as kings, queens, and the royally adjacent. Tofurky, tapioca-based marshmallows, non-dairy ice cream, frozen seitan curry dinners, veggie burgers, almond flour-based brownies, and blondie cookies--they’re all out there, ready and available for herbivorous consumption. Just as with anything, balance and moderation are required. Vegan alternatives can be equally as riddled with ambiguous fillers as any other non-plant-based food or snack. They’re not immune to the same greenwashing that occurs with product marketing, either. If not careful, an aspiring or long-time practicing vegan can find themselves eating mystery “plant-based” meats and consuming far more soy than they might like to. Allergies are to be taken into consideration as well, as they could heavily restrict healthier options.

5. Cross-contamination happens.

Another thing to note is that cross-contamination exists. Going vegan is not 100% bulletproof. For example, it’s been reported in recent years that not all sugars are vegan. Sometimes eating out may pose the risk of ingesting animal byproducts, or maybe going to a luncheon could result in you accidentally consuming bacon. Mishaps happen, and it’s nothing to feel guilty or ashamed about. As time carries on, you’ll become more aware of what questions to ask or requests to make when rolling through the drive-thru. You’ll even get better at knowing when it’s necessary to pack your own food or bring a vetted kombucha.

6. Do it for you and your morality, not the trend.

Going plant-based is a lifestyle change, not just a brandish accomplishment to boast about. It’s skyrocketed into the limelight for a number of reasons, most recently for the significant positive environmental impacts mass veganism presents. Whatever the “it” factor is now, I implore you to go vegan for the right reasons—those “right” reasons being in accordance with your own needs, moral compass, comfort levels, and capabilities. Know that choosing the vegan way means you’ll have to do your due diligence, whether it’s for your own peace of mind and enjoyment or for the longevity of the planet.

7. It’s not a substitute for healthy living altogether.

With all that’s already been stated, I cannot drive this point home any further: going vegan is not a substitute for tending to your overall well-being. Yes, it introduces a more conscientious way to live, but that does not mean one should neglect their holistic health or stop their growth journey at veganism altogether. Moving your body, scheduling regular doctor’s visits, making time for functional relationships and connections, challenging yourself to start a home garden, or looking into that electric car you’ve been eyeing for months? That’s all worthy of your time and energy, too. If there’s one thing I’ve learned through the transition, it’s that it’s extremely easy to forget to care for your soul with all of the incessant ingredient checking and corporate investigating. Be sure to make time for the whole of your being, to keep evolving, to check back in on the goals you set out to achieve in congruence with going vegan, as well as making time to define what a healthy, balanced lifestyle means to you.

8. It’s easy to fall into food ruts.

Unless you have the time to make meals or snacks from scratch or the finances to invest in meal subscription services, veganism can get boring real quick. Some recipes call for food processors, fermentation, marinating, and so on. That piece of the puzzle can get costly; thus, you might find yourself making the same revised veggie tacos or stir-fries, which can make you go a little stir-crazy.

Depending on other lifestyle factors or food allergies that may be at play, burning out on go-to meals can affect your overall enthusiasm in the sense that you could start visiting Pinterest or Minimalist Baker for quick meal ideas more than you set out to. This is part of the process (or learning curve), too. Finding other vegans and/or vegan cooks in your spare time can help get the creative juices flowing. If you find yourself in a rut, Hot for Food and Sweet Potato Soul are two wonderful resources for discovering new vegan-friendly meals and snacks that provide a bit more oomph. Oh, and if you have a local Trader Joe’s, asking for a copy of their vegan food list might also get you out of stale snacking habits.

9. It’s fun to experiment with!

Now, if you do have the time and patience to dabble in becoming an amateur home chef, you could find experimenting with natural ingredients and conscious swaps fun, relaxing, or awe-inspiring! Plant-based cooking and baking often call for safe, multipurpose ingredients that can lead to a world of savings. For example, I had a blast learning about all the ways in which coconut oil can be used—hello, nighttime skin routine, butter alternative, aromatic hair care, and oil pulling! It didn’t just become a staple in meal prepping, but also in my day-to-day life. Experimenting with ingredients can leave you feeling like a full-on alchemist, in addition to leading you down a road of food-grade lifestyle and wellness brands like Scratch Goods. So don’t be afraid to keep an open mind!

10. It’s all about discipline.

So in sum, veganism is all about discipline. It may be a rocky start, but the learning curve is worth it. Cooking, vetting, and shopping will get easier over time. You’ll know what to look for, which guides to keep tabs on, which household names and brands to stay away from, as well as your own limitations. You may even find yourself inspired to branch off into other avenues of conscious living, fasting, or earthly diets… say if becoming a raw vegan is more of your thing.

Be proud of yourself every single step of the way, whether you’re vegan one day out of the week or one for a lifetime. See it as confirmation that you can get to a place where you’re more in tune with yourself, or perhaps maybe even become more self-sufficient. Staying open and committed to the experience can help you become more confident; for example, maybe you’d feel confident enough to explore your homesteading abilities or dive into disaster preparedness. Because if COVID-19 taught me anything, it’s that you don’t want to be an unprepared vegan in times of apocalyptic panic and fear or unexpected crisis.

Update

After five years of being entirely plant-based, I’m no longer vegan; I’m still primarily plant-based, however, while transitioning back to a more balanced, flexible diet for health reasons. This guide still rings true for anyone considering going meat-free, as it gives a much fuller picture of some of the dilemmas you may face as a first-time vegan.

Happy researching,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers

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Hi Racism, Meet Racial Trauma.

Dear Friends,

Racism is a fabric of our society that inflicts violence upon the soon-to-be non-white majority. Thanks to the dark history of slavery, toxic social conditioning, and religion are used to keep the construct, division, and systemic imbalances of race intact. As a result, unconscious bias and complicit silence leave generational wounds that cut way too deep.

Racial trauma occurs at every stage of life, and even though it may seem invisible, it’s an avalanche of pain that rarely gets dealt with. Without ample access to resources and support, many go on to repeat generational cycles and patterns born of these initial, ancestral wounds. Although the world likes to believe it’s now entered post-racial status, racism still rears its ugly head in ways that most like to conveniently ignore, reverse, and deny.

The internet is forever changing how society sweeps its wrongdoings under the rug, though. Thanks to social media, Black people are sharing their stories and leaving no room for our injustices to be left unrepaired. Some only know of black issues due to Black Twitter. Others only learn of our frustrations through prominent figures in society lighting the match that is black outrage, so they can turn a profit.

At the center of that outrage are Black womxn, trans women, and female-presenting people. Long disrespected throughout history, we are doing everything necessary to heal and expose the truth of our experiences; we are doing everything necessary to share stories of our strength. From childhood to the office, we’re taking up activist roles and building communities online to speak up about racism and the trauma left in its wake. Falling in line with figureheads in my community, here’s a rundown of how white supremacy tries to stomp out the light of Black people and womxn:

Racism in Childhood

Race, racism, and white supremacy attempt to stain Black people at birth. At the onset, Black children are denied the chance to be children. At a young age, they are stripped of all innocence and become burdened with the truth of racism, its long-term impacts, and generational wounds.

Black children grow up understanding the judgment and disadvantages facing them. They learn they aren’t allowed to be their authentic and beautiful black selves, speaking freely and finding validity in their blackness or their bodies. They begin to read in between the lines—i.e., decoding macro and micro-aggressions, invalidating their own feelings, and falling victim to anti-black media and social norms. Some have to learn way too early in life about the probability of being mistreated, apprehended, and even put in harm’s way by the very people who set out to protect them.

Black children are hyper-sexualized and viewed as older than they are. And if they don’t haphazardly learn it themselves, it’s ingrained into their heads that there are two justice systems: one for them and one for us. Speaking from experience, waking up to systematic racism at an early age is more than overwhelming—it’s traumatic.

Racism in Relationships & Adulthood

When anti-blackness is left unchecked, low self-esteem and self-hate run rampant. More often than not, the anti-blackness seen in the world gets reflected and internalized, leading adolescents to have and express disgust or judgment for the self as well as their community at large (even if subconsciously). The continued lack of representation echoes back to Black adolescents that they are not considered desirable, worthy, or to be seen. This hinders their ability to have or form healthy relationships, and without proper tools or role models, young Black hearts become extremely vulnerable to isolating, unsafe, toxic, and one-sided relationships due to illusions of unworthiness.

Outside of sexual coercion and fetishization, racial discrimination in relationships gets in the way of healthy, empathetic, and authentic partnerships. If it’s not the pressure to not become someone’s baby mama (and be criticized for it), then Black female-presenting people are constantly faced with the fear of being ridiculed and intentionally misunderstood in relationships. It’s a different kind of loneliness and lack of support that extends to friendships in adulthood, too.

Misogynoir is a consistent threat that leaves Black womxn questioning if emotional security and social safety will ever come. Just look to mainstream media for a crash course on that. Knowing that you are always the butt of the joke is a tough pill to swallow in a world that already denotes you are not enough, or that you are asking for too much out of a friend, relationship, or partner. It’s a very confusing and gut-wrenching process, whether coming of age or entering that “grown people sh*t” era of life.

As bills cascade and the world hurries by, there’s barely any time to dissect how infuriating a realization it is for one to come to. That realization being that your ideas, feelings, needs, pain, peace, and presence don’t matter to some or most. The journey of a Black womxn seems to always be one that’s dismissed, ignored, discredited, and discouraged. Every day, Black womxn are put in the position to choose between their survival and their health and mental health, especially in the workplace.

Racism in the Workplace

If lacking allies in adulthood isn’t enough, hair discrimination and misogynoir in the workplace add to our lived trauma as well. Black womxn are expected to work harder for even less than their minority counterparts; they are expected to stay humble without a glimpse of pride, hide their hair, and be the backbone of society without ever needing an ounce of support.

They’re often told they need to acquire more qualifications and education to be considered for mediocre roles; therefore, leaving them sacked with the highest debt averages across the nation. It’s a cruelty that highlights all too well how gender pay disparities are disproportionately skewed in favor of upholding white supremacy.

Employers go out of their way to overlook Black womxn for promotions, and coworkers often try running their grubby fingers through Black womxns’ hair (with or without consent). Both weaponize their privilege and power to deny Black womxn all of their boundaries, whether bodily or emotionally, which are put in place as a response to social violence. This especially happens in White, male-dominated spaces. That age-old adage of women supporting women doesn’t do much of anything either, with more White women stepping into positions of power. These normalized grievances of (more often than not) being the “only” in a space make the stress of corporate America far less worth it for Black womxn all over the world.

Being regularly denied a seat at the table makes for a stress like no other—i.e., having to suffer in silence, with a general lack of support, and having to accept gross negligence and abuse to make the next month’s rent. It’s a challenge just for Black womxn to breathe easy, as they often aren’t met with grace, well-meaning support, nor are they afforded the chance to pause, heal, and recover.

The Task of Healing

It’s unfortunate that for Black womxn who defy the odds, the society that does nothing to protect them decides over and over again that they must be “humbled.” Plenty of people walk this world with several struggles, but I’ll bet some are at peace knowing they aren’t as “low” on the totem pole as Black people, womxn, and disabled Black womxn.

Being stripped of all your humanity and dignity is enough to make anyone cold and angry. It’s enough to make anyone want to shrink and walk the rest of their days on this earth unseen. In a society that already considers them invisible, it sadly wouldn’t be that hard.

In recent years, diversity and inclusivity have started to be more considered in the mental health space. I can’t tell you how many times I have been turned off from therapy because there never seemed to be enough Black therapists available. It’s an additional barrier to receiving help, outside of funding and stigma. Organizations like The Loveland Foundation and The Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation are ensuring that Black womxn and girls receive the support they need, however. Day by day, they’re working to combat mental health stigmas in the Black community.

As online forums, communities, and sisterhoods continue to grow, Black womxn are shamelessly reclaiming their humanity and keeping their feet on the neck of society. We are refusing to shrink ourselves or tolerate and accept disrespect. We’re (collectively) saying, “Give us our flowers, now. Say our names. Protect us. Do right by us. Consider us, too, and leave us alone to excel in our peace. Let us be soft.”

My Healing Journey

Reclaiming myself was a lonely and grueling journey of self-care and self-discovery. I did the hard work to unlearn toxic social conditioning and anti-blackness, and I still do to this day, with anti-black sentiments clouding every aspect of our world, media, and interactions. After leaving a toxic workplace, I opted for therapy and slowed my life all the way down. It took five years and giving up that which I love most to restore my peace and sense of safety. I thought I might come back on the scene eventually, but I had no idea it would take that long to regain wholeness.

In my healing, I became absolutely obsessed with not wanting to be seen, so my presence and racialized experience would stop “plaguing” me. In my mind, not being seen meant no more pain or judgment; in my mind, it meant people finally hearing me. After three years away, I tried adopting an anonymous and faceless persona to continue my work (hello, four or five Instagram names), but I realized hiding wasn’t doing me any favors. Not only did it introduce a whole new set of anxieties, pressures, and setbacks, but it also played into the hands of white supremacy.

See, an anti-black world doesn’t want to see Black people in it or speaking up, let alone does it want to see them thriving in it. Ultimately, not wanting to shrink myself any longer or play into the hands of white supremacy is what led me to relaunch this old uni-blog and finally start a YouTube channel. It’s why I started my mindfulness business to help with the healing and self-reclamation process; therefore, truly setting out to blaze my own trail. I reached a point so low in the world’s rejection (and my depression) that I finally said: F*ck it! I'll build my own d*mn table and be my authentic self. I’ll give myself permission to pause and protect my peace at all costs! Not giving a da*n who likes it or not and checking anyone who doesn’t come correct, of course.

Helping other people, other Black womxn, do the same — daring to be embodied in their humanity, that is — is all I could ever want and hope for. That’s why I’m sharing my story today without guilt, shame, apologies, or regret. This reflective article doesn't even begin to scratch the surface of how harmful or rampant internalized anti-blackness is within Black families (like it was in my own), but I hope it inspires you to speak up, to never give up (or in), and to reclaim your personal power. So, I hope you join me in spreading the word. Our individual journeys may vary, but this is what it’s really like to be black in America. It’s draining. It’s exhausting, and it’s a complete and total mind f*ck. It’s also beautiful, empowering, and the f*cking sh*t.

Be gentle with yourself,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers

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Dear Friends,

Loneliness can be a tough pill to swallow, especially if you already feel like an outcast or quarantining alone. Daring to push past that lump in your throat to say out loud that you feel alone in a room full of people is even more challenging, but we all get there at some point in our lives. We feel so far removed from others, and it becomes a burden to find or identify with relatable figures and stories.

I’ve been there before myself during several phases of my journey, most notably within my spiritual evolution and trauma recovery. As a recovering codependent and love addict, if someone wasn’t dictating life for me or needing me, then I felt like I didn’t have a purpose. And as with an addict, I didn’t want that source of validation to end. I was absolutely terrified of being alone, especially when I was younger. I was terrified of being left alone with my thoughts, terrified of what it meant to be liberated, to figure out what to do with too much freedom and no structure or illusion of control at all.

Because honestly? I thought I needed someone else to survive, to make a difference, to be in the driver's seat, or else I would live life the wrong way. So I filled that void and the silence with whatever I could. People, places, jobs, media, music, food, coffee… You name it. I clung to noise, overshared my life, and was far more accepting of one-sided relationships than I should have ever been.

It wasn’t until I had to come to terms with the fact that chapters of life are meant to be traveled alone. Once I realized that, I actually started to become open to being alone; being more open to learning how to work through loneliness, that is. It can be a real opportunity to learn how to cultivate more self-compassion and self-love, but how does one work through loneliness?

You may be asking this if you find yourself in a lonely space, trying to rediscover who you are. And to that, I say: Well, as with most things in life, there is no real handbook for that. We all feel lonely for varied and valid reasons, in which we may choose to avoid all acknowledgment or be painfully aware of the fact that we are lonely… especially while in quarantine.

I will attempt to share what has helped me during quarantine in the hopes it might help you, too. But to be clear, I offer no guarantees or promises for the self-exploration that may or may not come.

1. Find the Source

The first assignment during “hermit mode” was to find the source. To dive in deeper and explore if feelings of loneliness could be coming up due to a recent change, move, interaction, social pressures, or restrictions? Or if personal beliefs, mental blocks, absent support, and limited resources or allies could be contributing to feelings of isolation?

For example, I found that feelings of loneliness increased during my spiritual and recovery journey since I was no longer in a space that would allow the same people, relationships, circumstances, dynamics, etc. to stay in my life; that is, if truth, health, and healing were going to remain true priorities. Not everyone agreed, understood, or could offer support in the ways that I needed or in healthy ways. And that was okay. Separation was needed to move forward.

2. Identify the Default Response

Next up was to review the default response. Do feelings of loneliness or separation inspire or harm the psyche, overall well-being, or foster growth? Is the response to shut down, avoid, and escape? Or is the response to reach out for professional help, share with an ally, or try to address loneliness... alone? Furthermore, how does your inner circle respond to periodical separation?

For example, some people in my life at the time were not willing to support me. They knew me to be a certain way, so anything outside of that was shocking and felt like a threat to their sense of normalcy. I was rarely met with compassion, grace, empathy, or understanding. My usual response to loneliness has always been to try to fix it — by involving others, trying to bring others along, or filling the void with vices. Back then, I believed in the idea of “don’t leave anyone behind,” even if it eventually harmed me. Recognizing this default response to isolation helped me see my patterns with fresh eyes and start working on how to address them.

3. Respond Mindfully

Once the default response is acknowledged, choose a different one. Whether you feel misunderstood or like a lone wolf in your career, within your family, friendships, or in relationships, it’s all valid. Others may not be equipped to support you in all the ways you need, and that’s also valid. The change comes with recognizing the onset of loneliness, and then choosing to respond in a way that is not only healthy but also supportive to the rest of your journey.

Keeping with the theme of using my personal story as an example, choosing to cling to people or trying to incorporate other people wasn’t healthy for my recovery. Once I recognized that, I chose to do the opposite. From over-giving and saving or rescuing to setting boundaries and (consciously) choosing to put my well-being first. While it was lonely, in that loneliness, I have expounded on my skills. My hobbies have shifted from researching coping mechanisms to purely expressing my inner child. All of that to say, I don’t know if those would have been my takeaways, had I been allowed to make and force my recovery journey to be the group project I wanted.

So, in short, and as I’m sure you already know, working through loneliness can be an opportunity that leads to personal growth or the cultivation of more self-love if you are open to it. The following series of questions helped me process and become more open to exploring self-love in isolation, so I want to share them with all of you, too. If you find yourself feeling alone or misunderstood while rediscovering yourself, check in with yourself. Ask:

1. Why are you seeking connection?

2. Does being alone hurt or inspire you?

3. Is it time to reach out & let someone know how you feel?

4. If so, what networks or support groups can you connect with?

5. If not, is there something to be learned from spending time on your own?

6. Name 3 healthy ways to address feelings of loneliness or isolation.

All in all, know that it is okay to feel, express, and work through the emotions that may be coming up for you now.

Be gentle with yourself,

Founder & Editor-in-Chief
For Conscious Conscious Consumers